By Rosemarie Lynass, member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.

The way we speak to our kids can have a lasting affect but it is something many parents don't stop to think about.

It's very easy to fall into the trap of being overly critical of your children without even realising you are doing it.

If you step back and listen to the things you say to your kids in the course of a day, you might be surprised at how many negative comments you make.

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