Clare Lay

Clare Lay

Registered Member MBACP

Contact information

Phone number
07392 997268

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Therapist - Southampton

Southampton SO32
07392 997268
Sessions from £60.00


  • Flexible hours available
  • Wheelchair accessible office


Closed on Sundays

About me and my therapy practice

Relationship and couples therapist, trained by Relate, I work with couples or individuals who have relationship worries or concerns of any kind. Also a practising trainee Sex Therapist and a student member of COSRT. Together we explore patterns of relating, communication, conflict, decision making, and discuss what might be going wrong and what is working well. We find strengths and solutions based on a combination of theories and through talking, bringing individuals to self awareness of their own life and journey to date, acknowledge the present and look at future hopes and expectations. I help to overcome affairs and betrayal and sometime the loss of an intimate relationship and separation/divorce. Anything which impacts a relationship positively or negatively can be discussed in order to enhance happiness at home. I also have experience with military families and same sex couples.

Practice description

I offer a confidential and safe space to all clients, whether face to face in Bishops Waltham or online or over the telephone. I work short or long term with no obligations in terms of number of sessions, your slot is yours for as long as you feel you need it - bookable week on week, client's needs always come first. In couple work, there is usually an individual session for each client early on in the work to discuss individual needs and expectations. I have worked with military and same sex couples and offer a free 15 minute telephone consultation to give you the opportunity to find out how I can help.

My first session

Following a telephone consultation to introduce ourselves, a session will be booked in order for me to hear your story either as an individual or a couple. We will discuss reasons for attending therapy and what your concerns are, a bit about relationship history and what you want to achieve from counselling overall, goal setting which we review in each subsequent session for as long as you need them. From the outset, I remain neutral and we set out the terms of confidentially prior to and again within that first session. We make it as comfortable as possible and the session will last 50 minutes.

What I can help with

Abuse, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Depression, Loss, Relationships, Service veterans, Sex-related issues, Stress

Types of therapy

Brief therapy, CBT, Emotionally focused therapy, Family therapy, Integrative, Psychodynamic, Relational, Solution focused brief therapy, Systemic, Transactional analysis

Clients I work with

Adults, Couples, Older adults

How I deliver therapy

Long-term face-to-face work, Online counselling, Short-term face-to-face work, Telephone counselling, Time-limited

Languages spoken