Paul Lipman

I offer flexible hours through the weekday and evening as well as Saturday morning.  

When you contact me I will also usually check what time and day you are needing for therapy. This is simply to ensure I have space for you or to let you know what the wait time might be. 

If you contact me I will always get back yo you on the dame day and usually within a couple of hours. 

I'm situated 300m from Caterham High Street and 2miles from junction 6, of the M25. 

Before deciding if I'm the right therapist for you

Choosing a couples therapist isn't simply about finding someone experienced. It's about finding someone whose approach makes sense to you.

I've spent 15 years continually developing my approach, and it's impossible to explain it fully in a short directory profile.

If you're considering working with me, you'll be able to get a full picture of my approach from my website. The link is directly above. 

If you'd prefer a brief overview first, you'll find it below.

Hi, I'm Paul

Couples don't need exactly the same help. So why should both partners receive exactly the same therapy?

This simple truth lies at the heart of my approach.

Traditional forms of couples counselling tend to treat the couple as a single unit. My approach is different. I specifically help each partner develop the understanding, emotional awareness, relationship knowledge and practical skills needed to become the partner their relationship needs them to be. Both partners are able to contribute to and protect the relationship equally.

More than twenty years ago, I was struggling in my own relationship. The counselling I received changed both my relationship and the direction of my life, inspiring me to retrain as a psychotherapist and relationship therapist, specialising in working with couples.

Making therapy easier to understand—and easier to use

My approach combines relationship therapy with the deeper understanding psychotherapy provides. It makes the roots of relationship difficulties easier to understand, helps each partner understand what's happening and why, and provides the knowledge and practical tools needed to create lasting change.

I've also found that understanding what's happening is far more important than how long you've been struggling.

Step by Step guidance and a Clear Plan. 

I provide clear, step-by-step guidance both in sessions and for in-between them so each partner knows what to do, why they're doing it, and how their individual changes give both of them what they need from the relationship.

Both partners make progress side by side and leave equally able to solve problems, protect the relationship they've built, create win-win outcomes, and continue building the relationship they both want.

If you'd like to talk and about my Fees

You're welcome to arrange an initial meeting simply to find out how I work. There is no fee.

Very often, however, couples are keen to explain what's been happening and want to hear my understanding, guidance and advice. When that happens, meaningful therapeutic work has already begun.

If you decide to continue working with me, we simply treat it as your first therapy session. If you decide it's not right for you, you pay nothing.

You are also very welcome to call me, with any questions or to talk about your difficulties. I'll always make time for you and there is no expectation too go further. 

I believe therapy should help you begin making progress from the very first session. That's why each session lasts 75 minutes, giving us the time to understand what's happening and begin creating meaningful change.

Almost always couples leave with something new they can begin working with and practical guidance they can begin using straight away.

Between sessions, I provide summaries, exercises and articles to help you continue making progress and build on what we've achieved together.