Paul Lipman

I offer both In person and sessions by video link.  I offer morning, afternoon and evening sessions. Also on Saturday mornings. 

Couples £120/140 / 75 minutes

Free initial 75 min meeting. 

15+ years of specialist couples work creating deep and lasting relationship change — not simply managing problems at the surface.

Many couples come to me after years of conflict, disconnection, or failed therapy despite both people wanting things to improve.

What most couples don’t realise is that the issue is rarely just the issue itself. Couples often become trapped in patterns that quietly take over the relationship and keep them stuck despite love, effort, and good intentions.

This is why couples can genuinely want things to change and still find themselves returning to the same place again and again.

My work focuses on helping couples recognise and change those deeper patterns directly, so the relationship itself begins functioning differently rather than simply coping better with the problem.

Because of how I work, change does not simply get talked about. Couples begin experiencing change within the sessions themselves by learning new ways of relating, communicating, understanding, and responding to one another that create deeper and more lasting shifts within the relationship.

I work actively, directly, and with guidance throughout. This means you are not left trying to work everything out alone or wondering how to create change once you leave the room.

Many couples also come to me after betrayal, affairs, emotional wounds, or long periods of emotional distance where trust, connection, or hope within the relationship has begun to break down.

Alongside the work in sessions, I also provide practical guidance, new ways of approaching difficulties, and deeper understanding that help couples continue making progress between sessions and build stronger foundations for the future of the relationship.

I also understand personally how difficult it can feel to ask for help and talk about something so private. When I needed support, I  felt unsure and embarrassed. I work with care and sensitivity, and value dignity and respect in all I do. I'm also friendly by nature. 

I work from Caterham . Caterham is 300m from The High Street and station and 2m from Jct 6 M25. My clients are of all ages and couples even in the late 60s arrive and are helped. 

While I specialise in working with relationships I also have significant prior experience of helping individuals with Anxiety, Depression, PTSD, low self esteem, OCD and UEPD. 

My Specialties:

- Relationship Dynamics and Communication. 

- Repeating Patterns in relationships. 

- Attachment styles and insecurity 

- Personality and Relational Development 

- Conflict Resolution and Healthy Boundaries 

- Emotional Regulation and Self Awareness

- Building Trust and Intimacy 

- Anxiety and anger in Relationships. 

- TraumA and PTSD in Relationships 

- Neurodiversity in Relationships

FREE INITIAL MEETING: An initial session is an informal meeting and opportunity for you to tell me about what is troubling you and what changes you are hoping to make - Also for me to explain how I work and can help and after which in your own time you can decide if having counselling is right for you. Free of charge and typically 75 mins.