Wenna Chen

When It Comes to Relationships, Do You...

• Find it hard to say no to people?
• Find yourself doing all the heavy lifting, but feel people often take you for granted?
• Feel left out, lonely and resentful?

Now Image Yourself

• Saying no to people without feeling guilty
• Genuinely looking forward to spending quality time with others
• Being clear and firm with other people about how you feel
• Being open and honest about how you feel, without worrying about the other person’s response.

如果你正在经历：

在不同文化之间反复适应，逐渐失去“自己是谁”的感觉

在关系中反复受伤，却很难建立真正的亲密

长期焦虑、内耗，脑子停不下来

或者，你开始怀疑自己是否有ADHD、ASD等神经多样性特质，却一直没有被真正理解

你不孤单，也不需要再一个人扛。

How Can I Help You?

We are often told ‘you need to be nice to be liked’

So, you put yourself last

You accommodate other peoples' needs before your own; you are always the one who listens and supports others

But who is there for you?

While it’s okay to be someone’s rock, it's not okay, if doing so leave you feeling highly resentful and dissatisfied

There is a ‘ win-win’ solution, this is to apply the same love that you give to others to yourself

It sounds really easy, but, this is difficult if you don’t know what your needs and wants are

There are ways of listening to yourself that help you clarify what is acceptable and what isn't

LET ME SHOW YOU HOW

I am Wenna, and I help people pleaser be happier in their relationships

I remember how I used to feel deeply unhappy in my relationships.

I came to realise, a main contributing factor was that fundamentally, I didn’t approve of, or accept myself. I didn’t feel I was worthy of love.

Through therapy, I learnt how to listen to myself and accept myself for who I am. I now help people with similar issues.

I believe people can change and grow, peace and happiness are possible and achievable. I have seen this again and again in my personal life as well as in my therapy room.

I aim to work collaboratively with you so that together we can explore how to move your life forward in a positive way.

我可以如何帮助你

我理解这种状态，14年前，我来到英国攻读市场经济学硕士。毕业后，我逐渐意识到，这并不是我真正想走的路。内心深处有一种挥之不去的无意义感——不知道自己究竟想要什么，也不知道该往哪里走。

于是我选择暂停，用两年时间去旅行，去读哲学和心理学，去认真思考：我到底想过怎样的人生？

慢慢地，我找到了答案——我想和人工作，陪伴人成长。

于是我重新回到英国的college，系统学习心理咨询。三年后，我顺利毕业，获得英国心理咨询与心理治疗协会（BACP）认证。如今在英执业已八年，累积超过3000小时的咨询经验。

在咨询中，我知道，有些时候你只是想尽快走出来。

我们当然会一起寻找方向——

同时，我也会与你一起理解这些困扰背后的心理过程与形成机制。

这种理解，往往比短期的应对方式，更有助于带来长期的改变。

因为当这些被理解之后，你找到的答案，才会真正属于你。

我会为你提供一个安全、稳定、保密的空间，让你可以真实地表达自己，而不需要被评判或取悦任何人。

我通过线上（Zoom）为全球18岁以上的来访者提供一对一咨询。

你可以使用普通话、粤语、客家话或英语，与我进行交流。

When it comes to relationships, do you...

• Find it hard to say no to people?

• Find yourself doing all the heavy lifting, but feel people often take you for granted?

• Feel left out, lonely and resentful?

Now imagine yourself...

• Saying no to people without feeling guilty

• Genuinely looking forward to spending quality time with others

• Being clear and firm with other people about how you feel

• Being open and honest about how you feel, without worrying about the other person’s response.

I am Wenna, and I help people to build healthier relationships

We are often told ‘you need to be nice to be liked’

So, you put yourself last

You accommodate other peoples' needs before your own; you are always the one who listens and supports others,

But who is there for you?

While it’s okay to be someone’s rock, it's not okay, if doing so leaves you feeling resentful and dissatisfied

There is a ‘ win-win’ solution. This is to apply the same love that you give others to yourself

It sounds really easy, but this is difficult if you don’t know what your needs and wants are

There are ways of listening to yourself that help you clarify what is acceptable and what isn't 

HOW CAN I HELP YOU?

I am Wenna, and I help people to build healthier relationships

I remember how I used to feel deeply unhappy in my relationships.

I came to realise, a main contributing factor was that fundamentally, I didn’t approve of, or accept myself. I didn’t feel I was worthy of love.

I am happy with my relationships now, because through therapy, I learnt how to listen to myself and accept me for who I am. I now help people with similar issues.

You can change and grow through this; you deserve peace and happiness just like anyone else

I aim to work collaboratively with you, so that together we can explore how to move your life forward in a positive way.

I also work with couples to help improve communication and bring changes to the relationship.

I look forward to hearing from you.

With love x

Wenna

These are some of my professional experience & qualifications

If you ever wonder what actually happens in the first session, I have written a blog to tell you all about it. check it out using this link https://wennachen.com/blog/f/what-will-happens-at-your-first-counselling-session    

When it comes to relationships, do you • Find it hard to say no to people?

• Find yourself doing all the heavy lifting, but feel people often take you for granted?

• Feel left out, lonely and resentful?

NOW IMAGE YOURSELF

• Saying no to people without feeling guilty

• Genuinely looking forward to spending quality time with others

• Being clear and firm with other people about how you feel

• Being open and honest about how you feel, without worrying about the other person’s response.

We are often told ‘you need to be nice to be liked’

So, you put yourself last

You accommodate other peoples’ needs before your own; you are always the one who listens and supports others,

But who is there for you?

While it’s okay to be someone’s rock, it’s not okay, if doing so leaves you feeling resentful and dissatisfied

There is a ‘ win-win’ solution. This is to apply the same love that you give others to yourself

It sounds really easy, but this is difficult if you don’t know what your needs and wants are

There are ways of listening to yourself that help you clarify what is acceptable and what isn’t

I am Wenna, and I help people to build healthier relationships

I remember how I used to feel deeply unhappy in my relationships.

I came to realise, a main contributing factor was that fundamentally, I didn’t approve of, or accept myself. I didn’t feel I was worthy of love.

I am happy with my relationships now, because, through therapy, I learnt how to listen to myself and accept me for who I am. I now help people with similar issues.

You can change and grow through this, you deserve peace and happiness just like anyone else

It’s my aim to work collaboratively with you, so that together we can explore how to move your life forward in a positive way.

I also work with couples to help improve communication and bring changes to the relationships.

I look forward to hearing from you

With love x

Wenna

These are some of my professional experience & qualifications

· I am an accredited and registered member of the BACP with close to 3000hrs of practice experience

· I have a trauma-informed private practice

· I am experienced in adult ADHD and ASD 

· I am experienced in counselling a range of issues such as relationship difficulties, bereavement, depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, work & academic-related stress…

· MA Master Degree

· Expressive Art Therapy

· Focusing-Oriented Therapy