Stanislaw Stopka

I am a psychodynamic counsellor and trainee psychosexual therapist working with individuals and couples who want to better understand themselves and work through challenges related to sexual health and intimacy. 

My approach is grounded in psychodynamic thinking, exploring how past experiences and relationships influence how you feel, relate, and respond today. 

I have completed a two-year diploma in Psychosexual Therapy and am in the final stages of graduating from this COSRT-accredited programme at Tavistock Relationships. I also have experience working within NHS psychosexual services.

I offer online sessions via Zoom, providing a safe and confidential space where you can explore your thoughts and feelings. 

My clients come to see me for a variety of reasons: sexual difficulties, changes in desire, intimacy challenges, communication issues, or patterns in relationships that feel difficult to change.

 Some arrive with a clear concern; others sense that something could feel different in their emotional or sexual life. Together, we create a safe space to explore these experiences, understand what may be happening, and work on positive change.

As a trainee psychosexual therapist, I bring specialist knowledge of sexual wellbeing, desire, arousal, and the emotional and relational factors that can affect them.

My practice is informed by my diverse personal background and experience supporting clients from a wide range of racial, cultural, sexual, and gender identities. 

I am committed to providing a space where all aspects of you are respected, understood, and welcomed.

Reaching out can feel like a big step, but it can also be the beginning of meaningful change. If this way of working resonates with you, I would be glad to hear from you.

The first session is an opportunity to begin exploring your experiences in a safe and confidential space. I can imagine that some of this may be happening for the first time.

We start by gathering your personal and relational history, which helps make sense of the challenges you are facing. Some of this work is like archaeology—looking into past experiences and patterns that continue to influence how you feel and relate today.

Understanding yourself is a process that may take time. I usually work in an open-ended way, allowing space for reflection, insight, and deeper self-understanding, but I can also offer shorter, focused sessions for those seeking a more practical or time-limited approach.

This first session is also a chance for you to ask questions, get a sense of how I work, and experience the style and approach of therapy in practice. It is designed to be welcoming and supportive, giving you clarity and confidence to decide whether this is the right space to begin your journey of understanding and change.