Amber Raine

South-West London: I am currently able to welcome new clients into my private practice Monday to Thursday, in person, online or on the phone. 

Harley Street: I am the Resident Counsellor at 152 Harley Street and The London Scar Clinic. To see me there, you are welcome to contact me directly via their websites. 

I very much look forward to meeting you and hearing your unique story and working together on your goals.

I see clients from all walks of life and everyone is welcome:

I believe that counselling and therapy can help you with any issue and any area of your life. I have a warm and relaxed style and will accept you, and help you get a clearer understanding of the problems which are causing you pain or stopping you from being the person you want to be. 

You do not have to be in crisis to have therapy, but you might be. If that is the case, please know that you do not have to face difficult and painful feelings alone. 

Specialist Areas: 

I understand the internal and external pressures we can all face in life and I have a special interest in:

 Life transitions and periods of change, self-esteem ,family issues and body image.

As an integrative therapist I draw on different approaches to suit your unique needs and preferred ways of exploring your situations and relationships.

You might choose to look at:

Your Relationships:

• With your family 
• With your partner
• With your children 
• With your work 
• With your friends
• With dating

Support in Unsettling times:

• Major life changes and transitions
• Starting over after divorce or separation
• The effects of retirement or redundancy
• Feeling lost and stuck in life, coping with unwanted feelings and worries

Making the most of new beginnings:

• Seeking new horizons and beginnings
• Wanting a new perspective on life
• Unlocking your potential

Issues from your past:

• Unresolved childhood wounds
• Working through old pain
• How your past might be negatively affecting your present
•  Loss and Regret
• Shame and guilt
• Privileged neglect 

Your feelings about yourself:

• Who am I? Who do I want to be?
• Low self-esteem
• Low confidence
• Establishing healthy boundaries
• Becoming more assertive
• People-pleasing issues

Your Attachment Style:

• How your upbringing has shaped feelings about yourself and how you have learnt to relate to others
• Working towards healthier ways of relating to others

Women’s issues:

• Fertility
• Menopause
• Empty nest syndrome

Addiction:

• Support for partners and families of addicts (adults only)

Open-ended therapy:

You might have clear ideas of the areas you want to explore, or you might feel there is no single issue, but rather a sense that things could be better. You don't have to be in crisis to begin therapy, but you might be. Together we can go at your pace over time to explore your goals.

A combination of face to face, online and telephone therapy:

Therapy should be flexible to fit in with your lifestyle, so don’t worry if your life means that meeting face to face is tricky. 

You are welcome to select the method which suits you best, and can blend face to face, online and telephone sessions in a way that works for you.

Keeping you safe:

As a registered member of the BACP  and I abide by their ethical framework and undergo regular clinical supervision.

Where I practice:

I am the Resident Counsellor at 152 Harley Street and also have a private practice in Putney.

You are welcome to come and see me at either location.

What happens next? 

Arrange your complimentary 15 minute call: 

It’s easy – simply get in touch to book your initial complimentary chat on the phone about your situation so that we can decide if and how therapy can help you and book a time for your first session. There is no charge for this.

Our First Session: 

Our first session is about getting to know each other and finding out what you need from your therapy.

There will be a couple of forms to give us a benchmark of your starting point which will be useful to refer back to as we assess your progress. 

We will carry out an assessment together to work out what your goals are and how many sessions you will need and we will reflect this in a simple contract.

What do I need to bring? 

Quite simply, a willingness to be yourself, and a commitment to being as open as possible so that you can make the most out of this unique opportunity to explore feelings and thoughts that you might never get the time or space to look at. 

We can take it from there - That's it!

I believe therapy should fit around your lifestyle and work and offer a flexible way of working with flexible hours. This includes: 

• face to face in one of my comfortable and confidential locations in South West London and Harley Street 
• online
• on the phone

I offer both daytime and evening sessions

Modern dating can feel confusing and discouraging

Many people today find dating far more difficult than they expected.

I work with men and women of different ages who feel discouraged, anxious or uncertain about relationships. Some are navigating dating for the first time as adults. Others are returning to dating after divorce, separation or the end of a long relationship. Some are in their twenties or thirties trying to understand why dating feels so complicated, while others are rebuilding their confidence after painful relationship experiences.

Modern dating presents challenges that previous generations did not face in quite the same way. Dating apps can create a constant stream of profiles, conversations and possibilities, yet many people still struggle to form meaningful connections. It is common to experience conversations that seem promising but fade away, dates that feel confusing, or situations where someone suddenly disappears without explanation.

Experiences such as ghosting, mixed signals or repeated disappointment can slowly begin to affect confidence. Many thoughtful and capable people start to question themselves, wondering whether they are doing something wrong or why relationships seem harder for them than for others.

Dating can also bring up anxiety. Some people feel unsure how to start conversations, how to move from messaging to meeting, or how to present themselves authentically on a first date. Others find that rejection feels particularly painful, or that they quickly lose confidence when a connection does not progress.

Over time, these experiences can leave people feeling discouraged, stuck in repeating patterns, or unsure how to approach dating in a way that protects their emotional wellbeing.

Therapy offers a space to step back from these experiences, reflect on what may be happening beneath the surface, and begin to approach relationships with greater clarity and self-understanding.

About me

I am a fully trained therapist with a warm, thoughtful and collaborative style. Many clients tell me they appreciate having a space where they can talk openly about relationships, dating and life challenges without feeling judged or rushed.

Alongside my work supporting people with dating and relationships, I am also the resident psychotherapist at 152 Harley Street, where I work with patients around body image and the psychological aspects of aesthetic treatment. This work has given me extensive experience supporting people with confidence, self-perception and the complex ways our sense of self can be affected by how we feel about our appearance.

Alongside this specialist work, I also run a general psychotherapy practice where I support clients with a wide range of issues including anxiety, confidence, depression, identity, life transitions and patterns of relating in relationships and families.

This breadth of experience allows me to draw on a deep understanding of the many factors that shape how we feel about ourselves and how we connect with others.

While I am often described as a “dating therapist”, my work goes far beyond giving advice about dating. As a qualified psychotherapist, I help clients explore the deeper emotional patterns, beliefs and experiences that influence relationships.

At the same time, I understand that people who are dating often want practical support as well as reflection, which is why I combine psychological insight with coaching so that clients feel both understood and supported as they move forward.

Above all, I aim to offer a calm, intelligent and supportive space where people can think clearly about their lives and relationships and develop the confidence to make choices that truly suit them.

How therapy can help

In our work together, we focus on helping you approach dating and relationships with greater clarity, confidence and emotional steadiness.

Therapy offers space to explore both the deeper emotional patterns that shape relationships and the practical challenges that arise in modern dating.

Some of the areas we may work on include:

• Managing anxiety around dating – including social anxiety, first-date nerves or feeling overwhelmed by dating apps.

• Coping with ghosting and rejection – learning how to stay emotionally balanced when connections do not work out.

• Rebuilding confidence after difficult experiences – including break-ups, divorce or repeated dating disappointments.

• Understanding relationship patterns – recognising attachment styles and the kinds of dynamics that may keep repeating.

• Strengthening your sense of self – building self-worth that is not easily shaken by the ups and downs of dating.

• Recognising red flags and emotional availability – learning how to assess whether someone is genuinely interested in building a relationship.

• Communicating needs and boundaries clearly – expressing what matters to you without feeling “needy” or afraid of putting someone off.

• Staying grounded in the early stages of dating – slowing the pace of new connections and avoiding becoming overly invested too quickly.

Alongside deeper therapeutic work, some clients appreciate practical support around the social side of dating. This might include thinking about how to approach dating apps, preparing for first dates, deciding where to meet, developing conversation starters, and finding ways to feel more relaxed and confident in social situations.

The aim is not to change who you are, but to help you understand yourself more clearly so that you can approach relationships with confidence, self-respect and choice.

I strongly believe that your therapy should fit in with your life and once we have talked and you have booked your regular therapy day and time, you are welcome to choose whether we meet face to face or online, or a combination of both.

I am available at 152 Harley Street and The London Scar Clinic on Mondays and Thursdays or at my private practice near Putney Bridge and Fulham High Street on Tuesdays and Wednesdays.

You are welcome to get in touch to discuss options.

Areas of Expertise

I am the resident therapist at 152 Harley Street and The London Scar Clinic. I specialise in providing counselling for patients from all walks of life, cultures, genders and ages who are considering having plastic or cosmetic surgery, or treatments for all types of scars, including self-harm. I have worked with surgeons, patients and clinics for twenty years and have in depth understanding of all procedures, techniques, risks, limitations and recovery.

Working out what the right decision for you is: 

My goal is to give you a space to explore your motivations and concerns about having cosmetic surgery and to facilitate you making the decision that is right for you.

Deciding to have plastic or cosmetic surgery is a big decision, which requires careful consideration. It is normal to have a range of feelings, which can often be conflicting.

Please refer to my website for more information: thecosmeticsurgerytherapist.com

To proceed with treatment or not: 

Having the opportunity to discuss openly and honestly your feelings and thoughts can give you the clarity to know that you are making the right decision, whether that means going ahead with surgery or not. 

The pressures from social media, friend and family: 

Often it is hard to get the space you need where you can freely discuss everything without pressure or judgement and work out what is right for you. I will give you the space to explore your motivations for wanting surgery away from the pressures of family and loved ones and the messages projected by social media and other external influences.

Helping you with other issues:

Therapy can help you with any issue in your life. 

We can also look at any other issues to do with your self-esteem, wider confidence and happiness. This might include looking into your past to understand how it has uniquely shaped you and the patterns in your relationships with others so that you can learn how to make the most of your life and your potential.

My Background: 

I began my career in cosmetic surgery 15 years ago in Harley Street and have in depth understanding of the full range of procedures, divergent surgical techniques, approaches and specialities as well as the limitations of surgery. And more importantly, the emotional, physical and financial considerations the impact of having surgery, as well as the effects on self if  things don't go to plan.

 I am fully trained in the full range of facial and body procedures, including specialised procedures, such as vaginal reconstruction, breast reconstruction post breast cancer, and the revision of self harm scars or scars caused by attacks,  accidents and surgery.

You may have already had surgery which did not go to plan, and might be suffering as a result and want a safe space to process your feelings and how it has affected your life and relationships.

I am here to act in your best interests, to facilitate your exploration of what having surgery will mean to you, so that you can come to your own decision about what is right for you and move forwards as you make decisions about your body which will impact you for life and hopefully enhance it.

Specialist programmes for patients with scars from self-harm: 

I am the resident psychotherapist at The London Scar Clinic and can help you learn to live a better  life with your scars. Get in touch to discuss options for therapy and programmes designed help you live differently and better with your scars, either with or without skin healing treatment. I will not judge you and will accept you and support you in moving forwards. 

To see how we might work together do get in touch to arrange an initial 15 minute complimentary telephone session to discuss your goals.

You can then decide wether you would like to have:

• Open ended therapy: to discuss how your body image and other issues are affecting your life and relationships. We can also look at other issues affecting your wider life and happiness
• a one-off surgical exploration session: to explore your motivations and aims for having surgery in a 90 minute session to help you come to a decision about having your procedure