Benoit Bertrand-Delfau

Hello, I’m Benoit, a qualified existential psychotherapist working in English and French. I offer therapy to individuals and couples in Central London (W1T) and online via Zoom.

I aim to provide a space that feels both supportive and challenging, where you can speak openly, think more clearly, and explore what is troubling you.

I usually work on a weekly basis. Some people come for shorter-term therapy around a specific issue, while others choose longer-term work when they want to go more deeply.

We generally meet on the same day and at the same time each week. I try to accommodate requests for rescheduling when my availability allows.

Choosing a therapist can feel daunting. You are welcome to get in touch by email if you would like to arrange an initial conversation.

I am a qualified existential psychotherapist and work with individuals and couples facing a range of difficulties, including:

• relational difficulties or codependency

• life transitions, decisions, or uncertainty

• childhood trauma or painful past experiences

• shame or difficulties with self-worth

• sex, sexuality, or gender

• problematic use of alcohol or substances

• work stress or burnout

• emptiness, disconnection, or a lack of meaning

I am LGBTQIA+ welcoming and open to exploring experiences of identity, difference, and belonging.

Psychotherapy offers a chance to slow down and pay close attention to your experience. Our sessions are based on a different kind of talking and listening, which allows meanings and possibilities to come to awareness. Together, we will explore what you are going through, how you make sense of it, and what may need attention or change.

This may involve looking at your present situation, the meanings you give to your past, and what feels possible or difficult in relation to your future. Over time, therapy can help you live with greater clarity, honesty, and freedom in relation to yourself and others.

Couples:

Therapy offers a space to look more clearly at what is happening in your relationship.

You may be caught in repeated arguments, emotional distance, loss of trust, or sexual difficulties. Sometimes there is only the feeling that you have become stuck with one another.

I aim to create a setting in which both people can speak, be heard, and be challenged. My role is not to decide who is right, nor to take sides.

The work goes beyond resolving conflicts or improving communication. It is also about understanding the underlying patterns and gridlocks that shape the relationship, and about finding a common direction.

My approach is both supportive and challenging. It can help you feel more supported, think more clearly, and move forward.

We begin with what is happening in your life now: your thoughts, feelings, relationships, difficulties, and the way you experience yourself and the world. Some people come with a clear issue; others come only with a vague sense that something is not right. Therapy allows to give shape and language to something that has not yet been fully understood.

My role is not to impose answers, but to help you explore your life more honestly and see what may need attention or change.

Therapy unfolds through the relationship as much as through insight. Feeling heard can make it easier to approach parts of yourself that may have felt hidden, confusing, or hard to bear. At the same time, the process may also involve questioning patterns and ways of coping that no longer serve you.

I draw on existential philosophy, phenomenology, and psychology. I pay attention to the deeper questions and tensions that shape our lives: freedom and responsibility, choice and uncertainty, intimacy and separateness, mortality, and the search for meaning. I am less interested in asking, “What is wrong with you?” than in asking, “What are you living through?” and “What matters most to you?”

I do not take a one-size-fits-all approach. Some people need time to reflect on long-standing patterns. Others need support to stay close to painful feelings they usually avoid. Others come with a specific crisis, conflict, or decision and want to understand more deeply what is at stake.

About me:

I hold an MA from Regent's University's School of Psychotherapy and Counselling (distinction). 

Psychotherapy is my second career. I hold an MBA from HEC School of Management in Paris and held senior management positions in the beauty and fashion industry. 

I have been married to my husband for nearly twenty years and have three children. 

I offer a free 30-minute confidential consultation on Zoom for potential clients. This gives us a chance to meet, for you to get a sense of me and how I work, and for you to ask any questions you may have.

There is no obligation on either side after this consultation. If it feels right to continue, we can then arrange a first session.