Daniel Lee

I currently have availability for in-person and online appointments on Monday, Wednesday and Thursday afternoons and evenings, as well as online-only appointments on Tuesday mornings.

Many of the people I work with have spent years feeling they need to cope alone, hide parts of themselves, or be the person everyone else needs them to be. Outwardly they may appear capable and successful, yet privately struggle with shame, loneliness, addiction, anxiety, relationship difficulties, or the feeling that they're never quite enough.

I work primarily with men and LGBTQ+ clients experiencing addiction, shame, low self-worth, anxiety, codependency and relationship difficulties.

Again and again, I find that the difficulties people bring to therapy make far more sense once we understand the experiences that shaped them. The ways we've learnt to survive can eventually become the very things that keep us trapped, leaving us feeling disconnected from ourselves, from other people, and from the life we want to live.

My approach is warm, relational and collaborative. I'm not the sort of therapist who simply sits silently and nods. I'll ask thoughtful questions, help you notice patterns that have become so familiar you no longer see them, and gently challenge them where it feels helpful. Together, we'll make sense of your experiences and explore how they may still be shaping your relationships, self-worth and ways of coping today.

Before moving into private practice, I worked in a 12-step drug and alcohol rehabilitation service and with substance misuse teams in two London men's prisons, supporting people experiencing addiction, recovery, shame and the wider emotional and relational difficulties that often accompany them.

Alongside my professional training, I also bring lived experience of recovery, queer identity and neurodiversity (ASD). Those experiences help me understand what it can feel like to carry shame, struggle with belonging, or spend years believing you have to face life's difficulties on your own.

Therapy with me is an active, collaborative conversation. Whilst I will always respect your pace and autonomy, I'm not someone who simply sits silently and nods. I'll ask thoughtful questions, offer reflections, and help you notice patterns that may have become so familiar you've stopped seeing them. Where appropriate, I'll also gently challenge ways of coping that may once have protected you but are now keeping you stuck.

Some clients come because addiction or compulsive behaviours have taken over their lives. Others struggle with shame, people-pleasing, loneliness, relationship difficulties, anxiety, or a persistent feeling that they are somehow "too much" or "not enough". Many have spent years trying to manage difficult feelings on their own.

You don't have to arrive knowing exactly what's wrong or having the right words. Part of therapy is making sense of experiences that have felt confusing, overwhelming or impossible to explain. Often, simply finding language for something you've carried alone for years can be the beginning of change.

Over time, therapy can help you develop greater self-awareness, healthier boundaries, stronger relationships and a kinder relationship with yourself. Rather than simply managing symptoms, my aim is to help you understand the deeper patterns beneath them, so that lasting change becomes possible.

Your first session is an opportunity for us to get to know one another and for you to experience what therapy with me is like.

I don't use a formal assessment process. Instead, we'll explore what has brought you to therapy, what you hope might be different, and some of the experiences that have shaped where you are today. Some people arrive with very clear goals, whilst others simply know that something in their life isn't working anymore. Both are equally welcome.

There is no expectation that you tell me everything in the first session. Building trust takes time, and we'll work at a pace that feels manageable for you.

The first session is also an opportunity for you to decide whether I feel like the right therapist for you. Finding someone you feel comfortable talking to is an important part of the process, and I'm happy to answer any questions you have about me or the way I work before you decide whether you'd like us to continue working together.