Magdalena Hetmanczuk

I offer sessions on weekdays, during the day and early evening.

I have limited availability at weekends.

Sessions are available:

online — for clients based across the UK and beyond

in person in Chesterfield (S40)

The therapy room is wheelchair accessible and has a separate waiting area.

Sessions are usually weekly, but frequency is discussed together and reviewed as needed.

Online sessions take place via a secure video platform.

Session times are arranged together and may change over time, depending on availability and need, including shift work.

If I don’t have immediate availability, I work with a waiting list.

I’ll always let you know where you stand, so you can decide what feels right for you.

The best way to contact me is by email or text message - 07795 133707

I usually reply within 48 hours.

I work with adults who have spent years holding everything together for others — and are starting to feel the weight of carrying so much on their own.

You may be the steady one. The dependable one. The one who adapts, keeps conversations calm, anticipates tension, and makes sure things don’t fall apart.

For a long time, that may have worked. It may even have felt necessary.

But over time, the cost can become harder to ignore. Exhaustion that doesn’t lift. Irritability that stays. A sense of moving through life on autopilot, while relationships begin to feel strained — not because you don’t care, but because you care deeply and carry a lot.

Underneath, there can be shame about not coping “as well as you should”, and a quiet fear: if you stop holding things together, what happens then?

Often, it started early — in families where responsibility was simply expected.

It can also be shaped by living between cultures, where strength and self-reliance felt necessary and asking for help did not always feel safe.

I offer sessions in English and Polish, online across the UK and beyond, and in person in Chesterfield.

In our work, we take time to notice what happens between you and others — and what happens inside you when you try to keep everything steady.

There is no pressure to perform, improve, or arrive with answers. We move at a pace that feels steady and manageable.

If you recognise yourself here, you’re welcome to get in touch. 

A first conversation is simply a conversation.

I often work with people who:

• feel responsible for keeping their relationships steady, even when it leaves them tired, tense, or stretched thin.

• over-adapt, anticipate tension, or find themselves taking responsibility for other people’s feelings

• hold themselves to high internal standards and carry a quiet sense of not coping well enough, often while appearing high-functioning on the outside

• struggle to rest, feeling close to burnout, even if they continue to function on the surface

• notice strain in closeness — wanting connection, but finding it hard to feel fully at ease within it

• have been shaped by family expectations, migration, or living between cultures, where strength and self-reliance were often necessary and asking for help did not always feel safe

How I work

I offer counselling for people who have spent much of their lives holding things together for others.

There is no rush to explain anything or make sense of everything straight away. We stay with what is happening now — especially in relationships — and with what feels hard to say, easy to minimise, or quietly heavy.

I pay attention to the parts of you that stay in control, keep things going, or say “it’s fine”, and we approach them with respect rather than criticism.

There is no pre-set goal and no expectation to “make progress”. We move at a pace that feels steady and manageable.

My background

I am a qualified integrative counsellor (MBACP) working with adults.

I previously supported children and young people with emotional and behavioural difficulties, and adults living with life-limiting and terminal illness.

That experience shaped my ability to stay with what is difficult, without rushing, fixing, or turning away.

In my work with you, I prioritise steadiness, collaboration, and respect for your pace.

Starting therapy can feel like a significant step.

Many people arrive unsure what to say, or whether therapy is right for them.

Before committing to anything, I offer a free 30-minute introductory call. It’s a chance to ask questions and get a sense of whether working together feels right.

There is no need to prepare. You don’t have to know where to begin.

If you choose to continue, we start with what feels most important now. I may ask some questions to understand what brings you here and what feels most difficult right now.

There is no obligation to continue. If it doesn’t feel like the right fit, that conversation is welcome.

What sessions are like

Sessions are confidential, steady conversations.

We focus on what is happening in your life and relationships, and what feels difficult, familiar, or heavy. There is no pressure to analyse or work anything out.

This work is for people who have spent a long time holding relationships together and are beginning to feel the strain of carrying so much alone.

My role is not to direct or advise, but to help you see more clearly so you can decide what feels right.

Therapy doesn’t begin when things fall apart — but when managing on your own no longer feels sustainable.

I offer sessions on weekdays, during the day and early evening.

I have limited availability at weekends.

Sessions are available:

online — for clients based across the UK and beyond

in person in Chesterfield (S40)

The therapy room is wheelchair accessible and has a separate waiting area.

Sessions are usually weekly, but frequency is discussed together and reviewed as needed.

Online sessions take place via a secure video platform.

Session times are arranged together and may change over time, depending on availability and need, including shift work.

If I don’t have immediate availability, I work with a waiting list.

I’ll always let you know where you stand, so you can decide what feels right for you.

The best way to contact me is by email or text message - 07795 133707

I usually reply within 48 hours.

I work with adults who have spent years holding everything together for others — and are starting to feel the weight of carrying so much on their own.

You may be the steady one. The dependable one. The one who adapts, keeps conversations calm, anticipates tension, and makes sure things don’t fall apart.

For a long time, that may have worked. It may even have felt necessary.

But over time, the cost can become harder to ignore. Exhaustion that doesn’t lift. Irritability that stays. A sense of moving through life on autopilot, while relationships begin to feel strained — not because you don’t care, but because you care deeply and carry a lot.

Underneath, there can be shame about not coping “as well as you should”, and a quiet fear: if you stop holding things together, what happens then?

Often, it started early —  in families where responsibility was simply expected.

It can also be shaped by living between cultures, where strength and self-reliance felt necessary and asking for help did not always feel safe.

I offer sessions in English and Polish, online across the UK and beyond, and in person in Chesterfield.

In our work, we take time to notice what happens between you and others — and what happens inside you when you try to keep everything steady. 

There is no pressure to perform, improve, or arrive with answers. We move at a pace that feels steady and manageable.

If you recognise yourself here, you’re welcome to get in touch. 

A first conversation is simply a conversation.

I often work with people who:

• feel responsible for keeping their relationships steady, even when it leaves them tired, tense, or stretched thin.

• over-adapt, anticipate tension, or find themselves taking responsibility for other people’s feelings

• hold themselves to high internal standards and carry a quiet sense of not coping well enough, often while appearing high-functioning on the outside

• struggle to rest, feeling close to burnout, even if they continue to function on the surface

• notice strain in closeness — wanting connection, but finding it hard to feel fully at ease within it

• have been shaped by family expectations, migration, or living between cultures, where strength and self-reliance were often necessary and asking for help did not always feel safe

How I work

I offer counselling for people who have spent much of their lives holding things together for others.

There is no rush to explain anything or make sense of everything straight away. We stay with what is happening now — especially in relationships — and with what feels hard to say, easy to minimise, or quietly heavy.

I pay attention to the parts of you that stay in control, keep things going, or say “it’s fine”, and we approach them with respect rather than criticism.

There is no pre-set goal and no expectation to “make progress”. We move at a pace that feels steady and manageable.

My background

I am a qualified integrative counsellor (MBACP) working with adults.

I previously supported children and young people with emotional and behavioural difficulties, and adults living with life-limiting and terminal illness. 

That experience shaped my ability to stay with what is difficult, without rushing, fixing, or turning away.

In my work with you, I prioritise steadiness, collaboration, and respect for your pace.

Starting therapy can feel like a significant step. 

Many people arrive unsure what to say, or whether therapy is right for them.

Before committing to anything, I offer a free 30-minute introductory call. It’s a chance to ask questions and get a sense of whether working together feels right.

There is no need to prepare. You don’t have to know where to begin.

If you choose to continue, we start with what feels most important now. I may ask some questions to understand what brings you here and what feels most difficult right now.

There is no obligation to continue. If it doesn’t feel like the right fit, that conversation is welcome.

What sessions are like

Sessions are confidential, steady conversations.

We focus on what is happening in your life and relationships, and what feels difficult, familiar, or heavy. There is no pressure to analyse or work anything out.

This work is for people who have spent a long time holding relationships together and are beginning to feel the strain of carrying so much alone.

My role is not to direct or advise, but to help you see more clearly so you can decide what feels right.

Therapy doesn’t begin when things fall apart — but when managing on your own no longer feels sustainable.

I offer sessions on weekdays, during the day and early evening.

I have limited availability at weekends.

Sessions are available:

online — for clients based across the UK and beyond

in person in Chesterfield (S40)

The therapy room is wheelchair accessible and has a separate waiting area.

Sessions are usually weekly, but frequency is discussed together and reviewed as needed.

Online sessions take place via a secure video platform.

Session times are arranged together and may change over time, depending on availability and need, including shift work.

If I don’t have immediate availability, I work with a waiting list.

I’ll always let you know where you stand, so you can decide what feels right for you.

The best way to contact me is by email or text message - 07795 133707

I usually reply within 48 hours.

I work with adults who have spent years holding everything together for others — and are starting to feel the weight of carrying so much on their own.

You may be the steady one. The dependable one. The one who adapts, keeps conversations calm, anticipates tension, and makes sure things don’t fall apart.

For a long time, that may have worked. It may even have felt necessary.

But over time, the cost can become harder to ignore. Exhaustion that doesn’t lift. Irritability that stays. A sense of moving through life on autopilot, while relationships begin to feel strained — not because you don’t care, but because you care deeply and carry a lot.

Underneath, there can be shame about not coping “as well as you should”, and a quiet fear: if you stop holding things together, what happens then?

Often, it started early — in families where responsibility was simply expected.

It can also be shaped by living between cultures, where strength and self-reliance felt necessary and asking for help did not always feel safe.

I offer sessions in English and Polish, online across the UK and beyond, and in person in Chesterfield.

In our work, we take time to notice what happens between you and others — and what happens inside you when you try to keep everything steady.

There is no pressure to perform, improve, or arrive with answers. We move at a pace that feels steady and manageable.

If you recognise yourself here, you’re welcome to get in touch. 

A first conversation is simply a conversation.

I often work with people who:

• feel responsible for keeping their relationships steady, even when it leaves them tired, tense, or stretched thin.

• over-adapt, anticipate tension, or find themselves taking responsibility for other people’s feelings

• hold themselves to high internal standards and carry a quiet sense of not coping well enough, often while appearing high-functioning on the outside

• struggle to rest, feeling close to burnout, even if they continue to function on the surface

• notice strain in closeness — wanting connection, but finding it hard to feel fully at ease within it

• have been shaped by family expectations, migration, or living between cultures, where strength and self-reliance were often necessary and asking for help did not always feel safe

How I work

I offer counselling for people who have spent much of their lives holding things together for others.

There is no rush to explain anything or make sense of everything straight away. We stay with what is happening now — especially in relationships — and with what feels hard to say, easy to minimise, or quietly heavy.

I pay attention to the parts of you that stay in control, keep things going, or say “it’s fine”, and we approach them with respect rather than criticism.

There is no pre-set goal and no expectation to “make progress”. We move at a pace that feels steady and manageable.

My background

I am a qualified integrative counsellor (MBACP) working with adults.

I previously supported children and young people with emotional and behavioural difficulties, and adults living with life-limiting and terminal illness.

That experience shaped my ability to stay with what is difficult, without rushing, fixing, or turning away.

In my work with you, I prioritise steadiness, collaboration, and respect for your pace.

Starting therapy can feel like a significant step.

Many people arrive unsure what to say, or whether therapy is right for them.

Before committing to anything, I offer a free 30-minute introductory call. It’s a chance to ask questions and get a sense of whether working together feels right.

There is no need to prepare. You don’t have to know where to begin.

If you choose to continue, we start with what feels most important now. I may ask some questions to understand what brings you here and what feels most difficult right now.

There is no obligation to continue. If it doesn’t feel like the right fit, that conversation is welcome.

What sessions are like

Sessions are confidential, steady conversations.

We focus on what is happening in your life and relationships, and what feels difficult, familiar, or heavy. There is no pressure to analyse or work anything out.

This work is for people who have spent a long time holding relationships together and are beginning to feel the strain of carrying so much alone.

My role is not to direct or advise, but to help you see more clearly so you can decide what feels right.

Therapy doesn’t begin when things fall apart — but when managing on your own no longer feels sustainable.