Lucy Hetherington

You won't get a neutral, clinical version of me. I bring real warmth, honest reflection and a fair amount of gentle challenge into the room, because therapy works best when it feels like a genuine relationship rather than a set of techniques performed on you. Many of the people I work with are navigating what I think of as the messy middle of life; the pile-up of life transitions that rarely arrives as one obvious crisis: relationships shifting shape, families blending or fracturing, ageing parents, careers that no longer fit. Sometimes everything looks right on paper, but inside something feels missing or off kilter.

Relationship difficulties take up a significant part of my work, and not only romantic ones; friendships, family and working relationships are all important in our lives. I work with clients individually rather than as couples, giving you a confidential space to work out what's really going on and what you want to do next. This often includes infidelity and affairs, along with loss of identity and miscarriage or baby loss, both of which I hold with particular care.

Having spent three years volunteering with a rape crisis charity, I bring extensive experience to my work with survivors of sexual violence. I'm LGBTQIA+ affirming and comfortable with conversations some therapists avoid; sex, kink and non-monogamous relationship structures are all welcome here. A large proportion of my clients are men, and frank conversation about sex is never off-limits.

My approach is humanistic and integrative, drawing on Person-Centred theory, Transactional Analysis, Gestalt and Attachment Theory. Rather than working to a rigid method, I follow what feels most useful for you in the moment, that might mean simply talking things through, exploring recurring patterns in your relationships, tracing where certain relational habits first formed, noticing what your body is telling you, or trying something more creative when words fall short.

For some clients, sitting face-to-face can feel more exposing than helpful, and that's where walk-and-talk therapy comes in. Moving side by side rather than sitting opposite each other often makes difficult things easier to say, and being outdoors can loosen a session in ways four walls sometimes can't; many people find they think more clearly, and speak more freely, with their legs moving and fresh air around them. I offer a choice of routes around Henley and Wallingford, so if the idea of talking while walking appeals to you, this is something we can build into our work together.

Before training as a counsellor, I spent fifteen years in Oxfordshire's charity sector and studied Sociology and Social Policy at university, both of which left me with an enduring curiosity about how people are shaped by the world around them. I still combine private practice with community work, rooted in a strong belief that people need somewhere to belong, be heard, and feel part of something. This belief runs through how I work with clients navigating the messy middle of life.

I offer a free, 15 minute, online "coffee call" where we can start to get to know each other. You will have the opportunity to ask any questions you may have, and to decide whether I might be the right fit for you.

If you would like to work together further then we can arrange our first full sessions together. We will always have our first session together either in-person or online; we can move our sessions outside from the second session if that is something you would like to try.

You won't get a neutral, clinical version of me. I bring real warmth, honest reflection and a fair amount of gentle challenge into the room, because therapy works best when it feels like a genuine relationship rather than a set of techniques performed on you. Many of the people I work with are navigating what I think of as the messy middle of life; the pile-up of life transitions that rarely arrives as one obvious crisis: relationships shifting shape, families blending or fracturing, ageing parents, careers that no longer fit. Sometimes everything looks right on paper, but inside something feels missing or off kilter.

Relationship difficulties take up a significant part of my work, and not only romantic ones; friendships, family and working relationships are all important in our lives. I work with clients individually rather than as couples, giving you a confidential space to work out what's really going on and what you want to do next. This often includes infidelity and affairs, along with loss of identity and miscarriage or baby loss, both of which I hold with particular care.

Having spent three years volunteering with a rape crisis charity, I bring extensive experience to my work with survivors of sexual violence. I'm LGBTQIA+ affirming and comfortable with conversations some therapists avoid; sex, kink and non-monogamous relationship structures are all welcome here. A large proportion of my clients are men, and frank conversation about sex is never off-limits.

My approach is humanistic and integrative, drawing on Person-Centred theory, Transactional Analysis, Gestalt and Attachment Theory. Rather than working to a rigid method, I follow what feels most useful for you in the moment, that might mean simply talking things through, exploring recurring patterns in your relationships, tracing where certain relational habits first formed, noticing what your body is telling you, or trying something more creative when words fall short.

For some clients, sitting face-to-face can feel more exposing than helpful, and that's where walk-and-talk therapy comes in. Moving side by side rather than sitting opposite each other often makes difficult things easier to say, and being outdoors can loosen a session in ways four walls sometimes can't; many people find they think more clearly, and speak more freely, with their legs moving and fresh air around them. I offer a choice of routes around Henley and Wallingford, so if the idea of talking while walking appeals to you, this is something we can build into our work together.

Before training as a counsellor, I spent fifteen years in Oxfordshire's charity sector and studied Sociology and Social Policy at university, both of which left me with an enduring curiosity about how people are shaped by the world around them. I still combine private practice with community work, rooted in a strong belief that people need somewhere to belong, be heard, and feel part of something. This belief runs through how I work with clients navigating the messy middle of life.

I offer a free, 15 minute, online "coffee call" where we can start to get to know each other. You will have the opportunity to ask any questions you may have, and to decide whether I might be the right fit for you.

If you would like to work together further then we can arrange our first full sessions together. We will always have our first session together either in-person or online; we can move our sessions outside from the second session if that is something you would like to try.

You won't get a neutral, clinical version of me. I bring real warmth, honest reflection and a fair amount of gentle challenge into the room, because therapy works best when it feels like a genuine relationship rather than a set of techniques performed on you. Many of the people I work with are navigating what I think of as the messy middle of life; the pile-up of life transitions that rarely arrives as one obvious crisis: relationships shifting shape, families blending or fracturing, ageing parents, careers that no longer fit. Sometimes everything looks right on paper, but inside something feels missing or off kilter.

Relationship difficulties take up a significant part of my work, and not only romantic ones; friendships, family and working relationships are all important in our lives. I work with clients individually rather than as couples, giving you a confidential space to work out what's really going on and what you want to do next. This often includes infidelity and affairs, along with loss of identity and miscarriage or baby loss, both of which I hold with particular care.

Having spent three years volunteering with a rape crisis charity, I bring extensive experience to my work with survivors of sexual violence. I'm LGBTQIA+ affirming and comfortable with conversations some therapists avoid; sex, kink and non-monogamous relationship structures are all welcome here. A large proportion of my clients are men, and frank conversation about sex is never off-limits.

My approach is humanistic and integrative, drawing on Person-Centred theory, Transactional Analysis, Gestalt and Attachment Theory. Rather than working to a rigid method, I follow what feels most useful for you in the moment, that might mean simply talking things through, exploring recurring patterns in your relationships, tracing where certain relational habits first formed, noticing what your body is telling you, or trying something more creative when words fall short.

For some clients, sitting face-to-face can feel more exposing than helpful, and that's where walk-and-talk therapy comes in. Moving side by side rather than sitting opposite each other often makes difficult things easier to say, and being outdoors can loosen a session in ways four walls sometimes can't; many people find they think more clearly, and speak more freely, with their legs moving and fresh air around them. I offer a choice of routes around Henley and Wallingford, so if the idea of talking while walking appeals to you, this is something we can build into our work together.

Before training as a counsellor, I spent fifteen years in Oxfordshire's charity sector and studied Sociology and Social Policy at university, both of which left me with an enduring curiosity about how people are shaped by the world around them. I still combine private practice with community work, rooted in a strong belief that people need somewhere to belong, be heard, and feel part of something. This belief runs through how I work with clients navigating the messy middle of life.

I offer a free, 15 minute, online "coffee call" where we can start to get to know each other. You will have the opportunity to ask any questions you may have, and to decide whether I might be the right fit for you.

If you would like to work together further then we can arrange our first full sessions together. We will always have our first session together either in-person or online; we can move our sessions outside from the second session if that is something you would like to try.

You won't get a neutral, clinical version of me. I bring real warmth, honest reflection and a fair amount of gentle challenge into the room, because therapy works best when it feels like a genuine relationship rather than a set of techniques performed on you. Many of the people I work with are navigating what I think of as the messy middle of life; the pile-up of life transitions that rarely arrives as one obvious crisis: relationships shifting shape, families blending or fracturing, ageing parents, careers that no longer fit. Sometimes everything looks right on paper, but inside something feels missing or off kilter.

Relationship difficulties take up a significant part of my work, and not only romantic ones; friendships, family and working relationships are all important in our lives. I work with clients individually rather than as couples, giving you a confidential space to work out what's really going on and what you want to do next. This often includes infidelity and affairs, along with loss of identity and miscarriage or baby loss, both of which I hold with particular care.

Having spent three years volunteering with a rape crisis charity, I bring extensive experience to my work with survivors of sexual violence. I'm LGBTQIA+ affirming and comfortable with conversations some therapists avoid; sex, kink and non-monogamous relationship structures are all welcome here. A large proportion of my clients are men, and frank conversation about sex is never off-limits.

My approach is humanistic and integrative, drawing on Person-Centred Theory, Transactional Analysis, Gestalt and Attachment Theory. Rather than working to a rigid method, I follow what feels most useful for you in the moment, that might mean simply talking things through, exploring recurring patterns in your relationships, tracing where certain relational habits first formed, noticing what your body is telling you, or trying something more creative when words fall short.

For some clients, sitting face-to-face indoors can feel more exposing than helpful, and that's where outdoor therapy comes in. This doesn't have to mean walking; some clients prefer to sit outside rather than move, and that works just as well. Walk-and-talk is a popular option, though: moving side by side rather than sitting opposite each other often makes difficult things easier to say, and being outdoors can loosen a session in ways four walls sometimes can't. I offer a choice of walking routes around Henley and Wallingford (other areas of South Oxfordshire and Oxford City can be discussed), adaptable to different levels of fitness and mobility, as well as the option to simply sit outside if that suits you better.

Before training as a counsellor, I spent fifteen years in Oxfordshire's charity sector and studied Sociology and Social Policy at university, both of which left me with an enduring curiosity about how people are shaped by the world around them. I still combine private practice with community work, rooted in a strong belief that people need somewhere to belong, be heard, and feel part of something. This belief runs through how I work with clients navigating the messy middle of life.

I offer a free, 15 minute, online "coffee call" where we can start to get to know each other. You will have the opportunity to ask any questions you may have, and to decide whether I might be the right fit for you.

If you would like to work together further then we can arrange our first full session together. We will always have our first session together either in-person or online; we can move our sessions outside from the second session if that is something you would like to try.

My therapy rooms in Henley are on the first and second floors, and there is no lift; if you have reduced mobility, let me know when booking and I will make sure to reserve the first-floor room. Walk-and-talk sessions can also be adapted to different levels of fitness and mobility, from a short, gentle route to something longer. Meeting in person or online for that first session gives us the chance to talk through anything you'd like me to know, accessibility included, before deciding together whether moving outdoors might suit you.

You won't get a neutral, clinical version of me. I bring real warmth, honest reflection and a fair amount of gentle challenge into the room, because therapy works best when it feels like a genuine relationship rather than a set of techniques performed on you. Many of the people I work with are navigating what I think of as the messy middle of life; the pile-up of life transitions that rarely arrives as one obvious crisis: relationships shifting shape, families blending or fracturing, ageing parents, careers that no longer fit. Sometimes everything looks right on paper, but inside something feels missing or off kilter.

Relationship difficulties take up a significant part of my work, and not only romantic ones; friendships, family and working relationships are all important in our lives. I work with clients individually rather than as couples, giving you a confidential space to work out what's really going on and what you want to do next. This often includes infidelity and affairs, along with loss of identity and miscarriage or baby loss, both of which I hold with particular care.

Having spent three years volunteering with a rape crisis charity, I bring extensive experience to my work with survivors of sexual violence. I'm LGBTQIA+ affirming and comfortable with conversations some therapists avoid; sex, kink and non-monogamous relationship structures are all welcome here. A large proportion of my clients are men, and frank conversation about sex is never off-limits.

My approach is humanistic and integrative, drawing on Person-Centred theory, Transactional Analysis, Gestalt and Attachment Theory. Rather than working to a rigid method, I follow what feels most useful for you in the moment, that might mean simply talking things through, exploring recurring patterns in your relationships, tracing where certain relational habits first formed, noticing what your body is telling you, or trying something more creative when words fall short.

For some clients, sitting face-to-face can feel more exposing than helpful, and that's where walk-and-talk therapy comes in. Moving side by side rather than sitting opposite each other often makes difficult things easier to say, and being outdoors can loosen a session in ways four walls sometimes can't; many people find they think more clearly, and speak more freely, with their legs moving and fresh air around them. I offer a choice of routes around Henley and Wallingford, so if the idea of talking while walking appeals to you, this is something we can build into our work together.

Before training as a counsellor, I spent fifteen years in Oxfordshire's charity sector and studied Sociology and Social Policy at university, both of which left me with an enduring curiosity about how people are shaped by the world around them. I still combine private practice with community work, rooted in a strong belief that people need somewhere to belong, be heard, and feel part of something. This belief runs through how I work with clients navigating the messy middle of life.

I offer a free, 15 minute, online "coffee call" where we can start to get to know each other. You will have the opportunity to ask any questions you may have, and to decide whether I might be the right fit for you.

If you would like to work together further then we can arrange our first full sessions together. We will always have our first session together either in-person or online; we can move our sessions outside from the second session if that is something you would like to try.

You won't find a detached, clinical version of me here. I bring genuine warmth, plenty of curiosity, and honest, kind feedback into every session, because I believe therapy works best as a real relationship rather than a set of rehearsed techniques. Although I now live in South Oxfordshire, I grew up in Northumberland and offer this listing specifically so I can work online with people in an area that remains very close to my heart. .

Most of my clients are somewhere in what I think of as the messy middle of life: a stretch where nothing looks like an obvious crisis, but plenty has quietly shifted underneath you all the same. A relationship might have changed shape, a career that once fit no longer does, or ageing parents and growing children are pulling at you from opposite directions. Often, everything looks fine from the outside, and that's exactly the problem.

Relationships take up a large part of my work, and not just romantic ones: friendships, family ties and working relationships all shape how we feel about ourselves. I see clients individually rather than as couples, so this is a space to work out what's going on for you specifically, and what you want to do next. That often includes affairs and infidelity, questions of identity, and miscarriage or baby loss, which I hold with particular care.

Having spent three years volunteering with a rape crisis charity, I bring real experience to my work with survivors of sexual violence. I'm LGBTQIA+ affirming, and I'm comfortable with subjects some therapists steer around; sex, kink, and relationship structures outside the traditional couple are all welcome conversations here. Many of my clients are men, and talking openly about sex is never off the table.

My approach is humanistic and integrative: I draw on Person-Centred Theory, Transactional Analysis, Gestalt and Attachment Theory, and let the situation guide what is most useful rather than sticking to one fixed method. That might mean talking things through in a straightforward way, tracing patterns in your relationships back to where they started, tuning into what your body is telling you, or trying something more creative when words aren't quite enough.

This listing is for online sessions only, which means you don't need to travel; you can speak to me from wherever suits you, at a time that works around your life. Online work removes a layer of logistics, which some clients find makes it easier to fit therapy in consistently, rather than adding the stress of a commute on top.

Before training as a counsellor, I spent fifteen years in the charity sector and studied Sociology and Social Policy at university, both of which left me endlessly curious about how people are shaped by the world around them. I still combine counselling with community-sector work, rooted in a strong belief that people need somewhere to belong and be properly heard; a belief that shapes everything I do, wherever I'm doing it, including with clients working through the messy middle of life.

I offer a free, 15 minute, online "coffee call" where we can start to get to know each other. You'll have the chance to ask any questions you may have, and to decide whether I might be the right fit for you.

If you'd like to work together further, we can arrange our first full session. As this listing is for online-only therapy, all of our sessions, including the first, will take place by video call.