Adam Lawrence Rodriguez

I'm currently available to work with new clients. 

When closeness has become distance

I offer specialist couples therapy in Enfield and online, with a particular interest in sex, intimacy, trust and changes in closeness within relationships.

You may still care deeply about each other but no longer feel as close. Sex may have become less frequent, difficult to talk about or stopped altogether. One of you may feel rejected or unwanted while the other feels pressure or isn't quite sure how to explain what has changed.

Sometimes an affair, infidelity or loss of trust has shaken the relationship. At other times the change has been quieter. You may have become good at managing children, work and everyday life while feeling unsure where the couple has gone.

I can help when you both want more closeness but aren't sure how to find your way back to each other, or when sex, desire, trust or intimacy have become difficult to talk about.

Becoming parents can change your roles, your energy and how much you have left for each other. It can be surprisingly lonely to miss your partner while living alongside them every day.

My role isn't to push you towards staying together or separating. I can help you understand what has changed between you and what greater closeness, honesty or clarity might look like.

I also offer online couples therapy across the UK

Couples therapy and relationship counselling can offer somewhere to talk about parts of a relationship that may have become surrounded by silence, hurt or pressure.

I help couples with:

• sex and intimacy

• loss of desire or differences in sexual desire

• physical affection and emotional closeness

• affairs and infidelity

• rebuilding trust

• feeling rejected or unwanted

• becoming parents and relationships after having a baby

Sometimes you miss affection but feel awkward trying to get it back. One person may want more sex or intimacy while the other pulls away. Both of you can end up feeling rejected in different ways.

Where there has been an affair or loss of trust, there may be anger, guilt, hurt and unanswered questions. Couples therapy can help you make sense of what has happened and what it means for the relationship.

Parenthood can bring another kind of change. Becoming parents can affect your roles, your energy and how much you have left for each other. It can be surprisingly lonely to miss your partner while living alongside them every day.

My role isn't to push you towards staying together or separating. I can help you understand what has changed between you and what greater closeness, honesty or clarity might look like.

I also offer online couples therapy across the UK.

The first couples therapy session gives each of you some space to tell me how the relationship feels from where you're standing.

I'll ask what has brought you now, what has changed and what each of you hopes might be different. I may also ask about the history of your relationship and what happens when one of you feels rejected, hurt or under pressure.

If sex or intimacy has become difficult, you won't be expected to talk about anything before you're ready. If there has been an affair or loss of trust, you don't need to already know what you want to do about the relationship.

The first session is a chance for me to understand you both and for you to get a sense of how I can help.

For our first meeting, I charge £80 for a 50-minute consultation. If we decide to continue working together, we would usually meet weekly. Ongoing couples therapy is £120 for 50 minutes.

Sessions are available in Enfield or online.

I currently have availability to see new clients. 

Helping couples understand what has come between them

You may still care deeply about each other, but somehow keep ending up in the same painful place. A conversation that starts small becomes another argument. One of you pushes to be heard while the other withdraws. Or perhaps there are fewer arguments now, but more silence, distance and a growing sense that you have lost each other somewhere along the way.

Sometimes there has been a clear crisis. At other times nothing dramatic has happened. You may simply notice that you feel lonely together, that affection has faded, or that attempts to talk leave you both feeling misunderstood.

I offer specialist couples therapy and couples counselling in Enfield, North London, as well as online. I help couples slow these moments down and begin to understand not just what you are arguing about, but what keeps happening between you when one of you feels hurt, ignored, rejected or under pressure.

I trained at the world-renowned couples institute, Tavistock Relationships, where I now work as a visiting clinician. Much of my work is with couples and relationship difficulties, particularly when two people care about each other but have become stuck in ways they have not been able to shift alone.

As a male therapist of mixed-Black heritage, I also bring sensitivity to how family, race, culture, gender and different backgrounds can shape a relationship and the way two people understand each other.

I offer couples therapy in Enfield and online couples therapy across the UK.

Whether you think of it as couples therapy, couples counselling or relationship therapy, the starting point is often the same. Something between you has become difficult to change on your own.

I help couples with:

• communication problems and constant arguing

• recurring arguments and relationship conflict

• emotional distance and feeling disconnected

• loneliness within a relationship

• feeling unheard, blamed or shut out

• uncertainty about whether the relationship can change

You might be caught in a pattern where one of you pushes to talk while the other pulls away. Small disagreements become bigger arguments. Both of you may be trying to feel understood, while somehow leaving the other feeling further away.

I don't take sides or decide who is right. In couples counselling, I help you notice the pattern you've become caught in and think about what may sit underneath the anger, silence or defensiveness.

My approach is psychodynamic and relational. I'm interested in what is happening between you now and in the experiences that may have shaped how each of you responds when you feel hurt or uncertain.

Couples therapy isn't only for relationships at breaking point. Sometimes couples come because they can feel distance growing and want help before things become harder.

In the first couples therapy session, I will give each of you time to tell me how you experience the relationship and what has brought you to therapy now.

I'll ask about what has been happening between you, some of the history of your relationship and what tends to happen when things become difficult. We may begin to notice a pattern that leaves you both feeling stuck.

The focus isn't on deciding who is to blame. It's about helping me understand your relationship and giving you a sense of how I work.

You don't need to arrive agreeing about the problem or knowing what you want to happen next.

For our first meeting, I charge £80 for a 50-minute consultation. If we decide to continue working together, we would usually meet weekly. Ongoing couples therapy is £120 for 50 minutes.

Sessions are available in Enfield or online.

I have availability to work with new clients.

When you're looking for someone to think with

You might be managing life reasonably well on the outside while finding it much harder underneath. Your mind may rarely switch off. You replay conversations, worry about what other people think of you, or notice how quickly you become unsettled when someone you care about feels distant.

Sometimes there isn't one obvious reason for coming to therapy. You may just know that you feel anxious, low, overwhelmed or increasingly hard on yourself. Or perhaps something keeps repeating in your relationships and you've started to wonder why you end up feeling the same way, even with different people.

I offer personal therapy in Winchmore Hill and Enfield, North London, as well as online.

I trained in individual and couple psychodynamic therapy at Tavistock Relationships, where I now work as a visiting clinician. I'm interested not only in what is difficult now, but in the patterns underneath it and the parts of ourselves that can be harder to understand alone.

My style is thoughtful and engaged. I won't rush to give you an explanation for how you feel or tell you what you should do. I will help you slow things down, notice what may be happening and think with you about why certain feelings or relationships have become difficult to shift.

Personal therapy, counselling and psychotherapy can give you somewhere to talk about things that may be difficult to make sense of alone.

I help people with:

• anxiety and overthinking

• stress and pressure at work

• feeling overwhelmed or finding it difficult to cope

• low self-esteem and self-criticism

• relationship problems and repeating patterns

• dating, intimacy, break-ups and loneliness

• family pressures and difficult family relationships

• questions around race, culture, belonging or who you are

You may find yourself trying hard to keep other people happy, worrying about rejection or becoming unsettled when someone you care about feels distant. Perhaps similar relationship difficulties keep returning even when the people or circumstances change.

Family expectations can leave you caught between what you want and what other people need from you. At work, you may put pressure on yourself to keep going even when you're struggling underneath.

In individual therapy, we can think about what is happening now and become curious about why certain feelings or patterns keep returning. My approach is psychodynamic and relational, so I won't simply tell you how you should think or behave. We'll try to understand more about what may be happening underneath.

I offer individual therapy in Winchmore Hill and Enfield, alongside online therapy and online counselling across the UK.

You don't need to arrive knowing exactly what is wrong or having the right words for it.

The first session is a chance for me to hear what life feels like from where you're standing. I may ask about what is happening now, your relationships, work or family, and anything from earlier in your life that feels important.

Sometimes people arrive with something very specific they want help with. Other times they simply know that things have become harder and they would like somewhere to think.

It is also a chance for you to get a sense of me. Therapy is a particular kind of relationship, and whether you feel able to talk and think with me matters.

For our first meeting, I charge £50 for a 50-minute consultation. If we decide to continue, we would usually meet weekly. Ongoing personal therapy is £80 for 50 minutes.

I can sometimes offer lower-cost therapy depending on availability.

Sessions are available in Winchmore Hill, Enfield or online.