Kirstin Heidler

Struggling with self-doubt, feeling misunderstood or overwhelm? I offer counselling to help you understand emotional patterns, communicate more clearly and feel more connected to yourself and others.

You might be feeling stuck in recurring conflicts, unsure how to express what you need, or experiencing shame, self-doubt or disconnection. In our work together, we slow things down and explore what is happening beneath the surface.

I offer a reflective and supportive space for people who are struggling with emotional patterns that feel difficult to change,  relationships or communication. We do this by slowing down, and exploring your felt experience, so things don't just stay cognitive. This can enable you to let go of old patterns and find more connection with yourself and others.

My approach is person-centred, which means I work at your pace and focus on what feels most important to you. I integrate this with Nonviolent Communication and relational and somatic approaches, supporting you to develop greater awareness of your feelings, needs and patterns of relating. I pay attention to your level of activation, pacing the work in a way that doesn't get overwhelming.

I bring a combination of emotional attunement and clarity, helping you feel met while also bringing insight to support you in making sense of your experience in new ways.

I have a particular interest in how we navigate intimacy, vulnerability and conflict - both within ourselves and in our relationships.

I aim to offer a gentle, warm and respectful space in which you can show up however you are.

In our sessions, there is no pressure to have things figured out. We take time to explore your experience with curiosity and care, allowing deeper understanding to emerge.

Where helpful, I may gently support you in connecting with your felt experience. This can allow you to access another level of meaning and help untangle things that the mind cannot.

My background in conflict facilitation and Nonviolent Communication means I am comfortable working with strong emotions, tension and complexity -  including trauma - supporting people to stay with what is difficult without becoming overwhelmed. I support you in taking breaks and finding grounding as we connect about what matters.

I offer a free 20-minute introductory call where we can talk about what brings you to counselling and see whether working together feels like a good fit.

In our first full session, we will begin by exploring what you would like support with and what feels most important for you at this time. There is no formal assessment process, and you are welcome to share as much or as little as feels comfortable.

You can also ask any questions about how I work, and we can talk about what you might hope to get from counselling.

Some people come with a clear focus, while others are unsure where to begin - both are welcome.

My aim in the first session is to help you feel at ease and to begin building a sense of trust and understanding.