Kate Heavey

My counselling office is in the next village to Loxwood, in Alfold,  just off the A281 in between Guildford and Horsham.  Additionally, I offer walk and talk therapy, online counselling and telephone therapy.

**Update 8 December**

Face to face, online or telephone appointment: -

Currently full.

EAPs: - I am Bupa, Axa and Aviva approved.

Counselling students: - Additionally I work with counsellors in training. I am BACP accredited and I have vast experience and passion in working with counsellors in training. My modality is Integrative (Petruska Clarkson 5 Relational).

Whether as an individual or couple, you did not start off feeling you would need counselling yet life happens and it takes courage and vulnerability to reach out and 'hands up' I need support.

What has got you here?

It is a human condition to want to be liked and fear judgement. Children adapt to stay in relationship at a cost to them needing to have their basic survival needs met.

Being born as 'feeling creatures' this adaption happens unconsciously which 'works' in the family of origin. Then, take this child, now adult, into other social situations / relationships and confusion and pain may start to be experienced. Sound familiar?

If this is you, along life's journey you may have had to suppress your feelings and use logic instead, which works for a while. Eventually, this learnt behaviour, and coping strategies, starts to cause inner conflict and unpleasant feelings, i.e., anger, resentment, sadness, loss, disappointment, shame, etc. Very simply, I call this 'backpack full'.

When you feel like this, you will leak out and show 'symptoms', i.e., control, perfectionism, low self-esteem, substance abuse (i.e., alcohol and food), pursuing, neediness, avoiding, withdrawal, shut down, shut out, rejecting, etc. and it is these symptoms, invariably, that has you here as you are in a level of pain and discomfort.

There is a solution!

In your counselling we work together to look at how your learnt way of living is impacting you today, and the relationships you are in.

We will find ways to aid you living more authentically as you so you can feel fulfilled, contented and satisfied. In a nutshell we 'empty your backpack'.

If this sounds like the counselling / psychotherapy you are after, please, do not leave this page and take no action, do contact me.

Last words: - Right now, you get to choose and decide whether you will still be feeling the same way tomorrow / next week / next month / next year, the power really is within you.

Face-to-face Counselling

My 'office in the garden' in Alfold is a roomy south-facing conservatory. The benefit of the conservatory is that it looks out onto the garden, where there is the sound of running water, which provides a calming and therapeutic setting.

Driveway parking available.

(If you have cat allergies, please take precautions).

Walk and Talk Therapy

Walk and talk therapy is offered from a local location.

Online and Telephone Counselling

I have been working online and on the telephone long before Covid and have years of experience in online (originally Skype, now Zoom) and teletherapy.

Costs

First session for individuals - complimentary.

First session for couples/twos - £40 (due to pre-assessment work).

60-minute sessions thereafter: -

Individual £60

Couple £80

Counselling Students £45

It is always a pleasure to meet new clients and put faces to names.

Individual counselling: - Complimentary for individuals. I briefly go through confidentiality. I lead with a few questions to let me know a bit about your history and what brings you to counselling. This is also an opportunity for you to ask questions and for us to discuss how we would work together.

Couple (or two) counselling: - £40 due to pre-assessment work. You will have already emailed me back your pre-assessment forms so your initial session is held in the here-and-now. We discuss what you both want from your relationship and how we'll work as a three to get you there.

Relationship counselling: - Every relationship is co-created. You each bring your ‘back story’ of learnt behaviours and how you navigate difference, i.e., fight (hostility), flight (flee), freeze (withdraw), friend/flop (compliance) or fawn (appease).

In relationship counselling we look at how your learnt behaviour, and wounding to date, is interfering with your head / heart connection in your relationship(s).

Questions for you: - What was the first relationship you witnessed? (likely to be your parents). Does your relationship today mirror that imprint in any way? How did you learn to be in relationship in your family of origin?

Heads-up: - Your learnt behaviour tends to be how you relate in your intimate relationship today.

My counselling office is in Alfold just off the A281 in between Guildford and Horsham. I offer face to face, walk and talk therapy, online counselling and teletherapy.

**Update 8 December**

Face to face, online or telephone appointment:-

Currently full.

EAPs: - I am Bupa, Axa and Aviva approved.

Counselling students: - Additionally I work with counsellors in training. I am BACP accredited and I have vast experience and passion in working with counsellors in training. My modality is Integrative (Petruska Clarkson 5 Relational).

What has got you here?

It is a human condition to want to be liked and fear judgement. Children adapt to stay in relationship at a cost to them needing to have their basic survival needs met.

Being born as 'feeling creatures' this adaption happens unconsciously which 'works' in the family of origin. Then, take this child, now adult, into other social situations / relationships and confusion and pain may start to be experienced. Sound familiar?

If this is you, along life's journey you may have had to suppress your feelings and use logic instead, which works for a while. Eventually, this learnt behaviour, and coping strategies, starts to cause inner conflict and unpleasant feelings, i.e., anger, resentment, sadness, loss, disappointment, shame, etc. Very simply, I call this 'backpack full'.

When you feel like this, you will leak out and show 'symptoms', i.e., control, perfectionism, low self-esteem, substance abuse (i.e., alcohol and food), pursuing, neediness, avoiding, withdrawal, shut down, shut out, rejecting, etc. and it is these symptoms, invariably, that has you here as you are in a level of pain and discomfort.

There is a solution!

In your counselling we work together to look at how your learnt way of living is impacting you today, and the relationships you are in.

We will find ways to aid you living more authentically as you so you can feel fulfilled, contented and satisfied. In a nutshell we 'empty your backpack'.

If this sounds like the counselling / psychotherapy you are after, please, do not leave this page and take no action, do contact me.

Last words: - Right now, you get to choose and decide whether you will still be feeling the same way tomorrow / next week / next month / next year, the power really is within you.

Face-to-face Counselling

My 'office in the garden' is a roomy south-facing conservatory. The benefit of the conservatory is that it looks out onto the garden, where there is the sound of running water, which provides a calming and therapeutic setting.

Driveway parking available.

(If you have cat allergies, please take precautions).

Walk and Talk Therapy

Walk and talk therapy is offered from a local location.

Online and Telephone Counselling

I have been working online and on the telephone long before Covid and have years of experience in online (originally Skype, now Zoom) and teletherapy.

Costs

First session for individuals - complimentary.

First session for couples/twos - £40 (due to pre-assessment work).

60-minute sessions thereafter: -

Individual £60

Couple £80

Counselling Students £45

It is always a pleasure to meet new clients and put faces to names.

Individual counselling: - complimentary for individuals. I briefly go through confidentiality. I lead with a few questions to let me know a bit about your history and what brings you to counselling. This is also an opportunity for you to ask questions and for us to discuss how we would work together.

Couple (or two) counselling: - £40 due to pre-assessment work. You will have already emailed me back your pre-assessment forms so your initial session is held in the here-and-now. We discuss what you both want from your relationship and how we'll work as a three to get you there.

Relationship counselling: -  Every relationship is co-created. You each bring your ‘back story’ of learnt behaviours and how you navigate difference, i.e., fight (hostility), flight (flee), freeze (withdraw), friend/flop (compliance) or fawn (appease).

In relationship counselling we look at how your learnt behaviour, and wounding to date, is interfering with your head / heart connection in your relationship(s).

Questions for you: -  What was the first relationship you witnessed?  (likely to be your parents).  Does your relationship today mirror that imprint in any way?  How did you learn to be in relationship in your family of origin?  

Heads-up: - Your learnt behaviour tends to be how you relate in your intimate relationship today. 

My face to face office is in Alfold, just off the A281 in-between Guildford and Horsham. I offer face to face, online and teletherapy. 

**Update 8 December**

Face to face, online or telephone appointment: -

Currently full.

EAPs: - I am Bupa, Axa and Aviva approved.

Counselling students: - Additionally I work with counsellors in training. I am BACP accredited and I have vast experience and passion in working with counsellors in training. My modality is Integrative (Petruska Clarkson 5 Relational).

Whether as an individual or couple, you did not start off feeling you would need counselling.  Life happens and it takes courage and vulnerability to reach out and say 'hands up' I need support.

What has got you here?

It is a human condition to want to be liked and fear judgement. Children adapt to stay in relationship at a cost to them needing to have their basic survival needs met.

Being born as 'feeling creatures' this adaption happens unconsciously which 'works' in the family of origin. Then, take this child, now adult, into other social situations / relationships and confusion and pain may start to be experienced. Sound familiar?

If this is you, along life's journey you may have had to suppress your feelings and use logic instead, which works for a while. Eventually, this learnt behaviour, and coping strategies, start to cause inner conflict and unpleasant feelings, i.e., anger, resentment, sadness, loss, disappointment, shame, etc. Very simply, I call this 'backpack full'.

When you feel like this, you will leak out and show 'symptoms', i.e., control, perfectionism, low self-esteem, substance abuse (alcohol and food), pursuing, neediness, avoiding, withdrawal, shut down, shut out, rejecting, etc. and it is these symptoms, invariably, that has you here as you are in a level of pain and discomfort.

There is a solution!

In counselling we work together to look at how your learnt way of living is impacting you today, and the relationships you are in.

We find ways to aid you living more authentically for you to feel fulfilled, contented and satisfied. In a nutshell we 'empty your backpack'.

If this sounds like the therapy you are after, please, do not leave this page and take no action, contact me.

Last words: - Right now, you get to choose and decide whether you will still be feeling the same way tomorrow / next week / next month / next year, the power really is within you.

Recognised psychotherapist and counsellor with: -

Bupa, Aviva, AXA and Vitalityhealth.

It is always a pleasure to meet new clients and put faces to names.

Individual counselling: - Complimentary for individuals. I briefly go through confidentiality. I lead with a few questions to let me know a bit about your history and what brings you to counselling. This is also an opportunity for you to ask questions and for us to discuss how we would work together.

Couple (or two) counselling: - £40 due to pre-assessment work. You will have already emailed me back your pre-assessment forms so your initial session is held in the here-and-now. We discuss what you both want from your relationship and how we'll work as a three to get you there.

Relationship counselling: - Every relationship is co-created. You each bring your ‘back story’ of learnt behaviours and how you navigate difference, i.e., fight (hostility), flight (flee), freeze (withdraw), friend/flop (compliance) or fawn (appease).

In relationship counselling we look at how your learnt behaviour, and wounding to date, is interfering with your head / heart connection in your relationship(s).

Questions for you: - What was the first relationship you witnessed? (likely to be your parents). Does your relationship today mirror that imprint in any way? How did you learn to be in relationship in your family of origin?

Heads-up: - Your learnt behaviour tends to be how you relate in your intimate relationship today.

My counselling office is in Alfold just off the A281 in between Guildford and Horsham. Additionally, I offer walk and talk therapy, online counselling and telephone therapy.

**Update 8 December**

Face to face, online or telephone appointment: -

Currently full.

EAPs: - I am Bupa, Axa and Aviva approved.

Counselling students: - Additionally I work with counsellors in training. I am BACP accredited and I have vast experience and passion in working with counsellors in training. My modality is Integrative (Petruska Clarkson 5 Relational).

Whether as an individual or couple, you did not start off feeling you would need counselling yet life happens and it takes courage to reach out. Counselling is not weakness; it is being vulnerable to say 'hands up' I need support.

What has got you here?

It is a human condition to want to be liked and fear judgement. Children adapt to stay in relationship at a cost to them needing to have their basic survival needs met.

Being born as 'feeling creatures' this adaption happens unconsciously which 'works' in the family of origin. Then, take this child, now adult, into other social situations / relationships and confusion and pain may start to be experienced. Sound familiar?

If this is you, along life's journey you may have had to suppress your feelings and use logic instead, which works for a while. Eventually, this learnt behaviour, and coping strategies, starts to cause inner conflict and unpleasant feelings, i.e., anger, resentment, sadness, loss, disappointment, shame, etc. Very simply, I call this 'backpack full'.

When you feel like this, you will leak out and show 'symptoms', i.e., control, perfectionism, low self-esteem, substance abuse (i.e., alcohol and food), pursuing, neediness, avoiding, withdrawal, shut down, shut out, rejecting, etc. and it is these symptoms, invariably, that has you here as you are in a level of pain and discomfort.

There is a solution!

In your counselling we work together to look at how your learnt way of living is impacting you today, and the relationships you are in.

We will find ways to aid you living more authentically as you so you can feel fulfilled, contented and satisfied. In a nutshell we 'empty your backpack'.

If this sounds like the counselling / psychotherapy you are after, please, do not leave this page and take no action, do contact me.

Last words: - Right now, you get to choose and decide whether you will still be feeling the same way tomorrow / next week / next month / next year, the power really is within you.

Face-to-face Counselling - Alfold

My 'office in the garden' is a roomy south-facing conservatory. The benefit of the conservatory is that it looks out onto the garden, where there is the sound of running water, which provides a calming and therapeutic setting.

Driveway parking available.

(If you have cat allergies, please take precautions).

Walk and Talk Therapy

Walk and talk therapy is offered from a local location.

Online and Telephone Counselling

I have been working online, and on the telephone, long before Covid and have many years of experience in online (originally Skype, now Zoom) counselling and teletherapy.

(Please note I cannot counsel in the USA or Canada).

Costs

First session for individuals - complimentary.

First session for couples/twos - £40 (due to pre-assessment work).

60-minute sessions thereafter: -

Individual £60

Couple £80

Counselling Students £45

It is always a pleasure to meet new clients and put faces to names.

Individual counselling: - Complimentary for individuals. I briefly go through confidentiality. I lead with a few questions to let me know a bit about your history and what brings you to counselling. This is also an opportunity for you to ask questions and for us to discuss how we would work together.

Couple (or two) counselling: - £40 due to pre-assessment work. You will have already emailed me back your pre-assessment forms so your initial session is held in the here-and-now. We discuss what you both want from your relationship and how we'll work as a three to get you there.

Relationship counselling: - Every relationship is co-created. You each bring your ‘back story’ of learnt behaviours and how you navigate difference, i.e., fight (hostility), flight (flee), freeze (withdraw), friend/flop (compliance) or fawn (appease).

In relationship counselling we look at how your learnt behaviour, and wounding to date, is interfering with your head / heart connection in your relationship(s).

Questions for you: - What was the first relationship you witnessed? (likely to be your parents). Does your relationship today mirror that imprint in any way? How did you learn to be in relationship in your family of origin?

Heads-up: - Your learnt behaviour tends to be how you relate in your intimate relationship today.

My counselling office is in Alfold just off the A281 in between Guildford and Horsham. I offer face to face, walk and talk therapy, online counselling and teletherapy.

**Update 8 December**

Face to face, online or telephone appointment: -

Currently full.

EAPs: - I am Bupa, Axa and Aviva approved.

Counselling students: - Additionally I work with counsellors in training. I am BACP accredited and I have vast experience and passion in working with counsellors in training. My modality is Integrative (Petruska Clarkson 5 Relational).

Whether as an individual or couple, you did not start off feeling you would need counselling yet life happens and it takes courage to reach out. Counselling is not weakness; it is being vulnerable to say 'hands up' I need support.

What has got you here?

It is a human condition to want to be liked and fear judgement. Children adapt to stay in relationship at a cost to them needing to have their basic survival needs met.

Being born as 'feeling creatures' this adaption happens unconsciously which 'works' in the family of origin. Then, take this child, now adult, into other social situations / relationships and confusion and pain may start to be experienced. Sound familiar?

If this is you, along life's journey you may have had to suppress your feelings and use logic instead, which works for a while. Eventually, this learnt behaviour, and coping strategies, starts to cause inner conflict and unpleasant feelings, i.e., anger, resentment, sadness, loss, disappointment, shame, etc. Very simply, I call this 'backpack full'.

When you feel like this, you will leak out and show 'symptoms', i.e., control, perfectionism, low self-esteem, substance abuse (i.e., alcohol and food), pursuing, neediness, avoiding, withdrawal, shut down, shut out, rejecting, etc. and it is these symptoms, invariably, that has you here as you are in a level of pain and discomfort.

There is a solution!

In your counselling we work together to look at how your learnt way of living is impacting you today, and the relationships you are in.

We will find ways to aid you living more authentically as you so you can feel fulfilled, contented and satisfied. In a nutshell we 'empty your backpack'.

If this sounds like the counselling / psychotherapy you are after, please, do not leave this page and take no action, do contact me.

Last words: - Right now, you get to choose and decide whether you will still be feeling the same way tomorrow / next week / next month / next year, the power really is within you.

Face-to-face Counselling

My 'office in the garden' is a roomy south-facing conservatory. The benefit of the conservatory is that it looks out onto the garden, where there is the sound of running water, which provides a calming and therapeutic setting.

Driveway parking available.

(If you have cat allergies, please take precautions).

Walk and Talk Therapy

Walk and talk therapy is offered from a local location.

Zoom / Online and Telephone Counselling

I have been working online and on the telephone long before Covid and have years of experience in online (originally Skype, now Zoom) and teletherapy.

Costs

First session for individuals - complimentary.

First session for couples/twos - £40 (due to pre-assessment work).

60-minute sessions thereafter: -

Individual £60

Couple £80

Counselling Students £45

It is always a pleasure to meet new clients and put faces to names.

Individual counselling: - Complimentary for individuals. I briefly go through confidentiality. I lead with a few questions to let me know a bit about your history and what brings you to counselling. This is also an opportunity for you to ask questions and for us to discuss how we would work together.

Couple (or two) counselling: - £40 due to pre-assessment work. You will have already emailed me back your pre-assessment forms so your initial session is held in the here-and-now. We discuss what you both want from your relationship and how we'll work as a three to get you there.

Relationship counselling: - Every relationship is co-created. You each bring your ‘back story’ of learnt behaviours and how you navigate difference, i.e., fight (hostility), flight (flee), freeze (withdraw), friend/flop (compliance) or fawn (appease).

In relationship counselling we look at how your learnt behaviour, and wounding to date, is interfering with your head / heart connection in your relationship(s).

Questions for you: - What was the first relationship you witnessed? (likely to be your parents). Does your relationship today mirror that imprint in any way? How did you learn to be in relationship in your family of origin?

Heads-up: - Your learnt behaviour tends to be how you relate in your intimate relationship today.

**Update 8 December**

Face to face, online or telephone appointment:-

Currently full.

EAPs: - I am Bupa, Axa and Aviva approved.

Counselling students: - Additionally I work with counsellors in training.  I am BACP accredited and I have vast experience and passion in working with counsellors in training.  My modality is Integrative (Petruska Clarkson 5 Relational).

It is always a pleasure to meet new clients and put faces to names.

Individual counselling: - complimentary for individuals. I briefly go through confidentiality. I lead with a few questions to let me know a bit about your history and what brings you to counselling. This is also an opportunity for you to ask questions and for us to discuss how we would work together.

Couple (or two) counselling: - £40 due to pre-assessment work. You will have already emailed me back your pre-assessment forms so your initial session is held in the here-and-now. We discuss what you both want from your relationship and how we'll work as a three to get you there.

Relationship counselling: - Every relationship is co-created. You each bring your ‘back story’ of learnt behaviours and how you navigate difference, i.e., fight (hostility), flight (flee), freeze (withdraw), friend/flop (compliance) or fawn (appease).

In relationship counselling we look at how your learnt behaviour, and wounding to date, is interfering with your head / heart connection in your relationship(s).

Questions for you: - What was the first relationship you witnessed? (likely to be your parents). Does your relationship today mirror that imprint in any way? How did you learn to be in relationship in your family of origin?

Heads-up: - Your learnt behaviour tends to be how you relate in your intimate relationship today.