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I work weekly, and tend to work with long term clients. Fees are currently £55 for a session (1 hour).
I currently have some day time availability.
About me and my therapy practice
I am a humanistic counsellor and psychotherapist. I am accredited with BACP as a Humanistic Existentialist counsellor, and am working towards accreditation with UKCP as a Mindfulness Based Core Process psychotherapist. I think these two modalities blend well together and can help a client to take ownership of their inner lives in order to enable both change and self-acceptance at the deepest of levels. I have found that real change tends to do itself when we are able to sit with curiosity, creativity and compassion for the way we hold ourselves and structure ourselves in lives.
Humanistic Existential Counselling
A humanistic existential counselling approach means that the client is in control of where the sessions go, and what the themes are to be explored. The counsellor offers a non-judgmental space, and an enquiring holding space, for the client to deepen into their inner lives. Existential themes are naturally part of depth inquiry. We are ultimately alone in our search for meaning. Fear is a natural part of our everyday life. It is down to us to take ownership of the choices that we make in our lives and feel good about it. Change will happen anyway, and death is inevitable.
Mindfulness Based Psychotherapy
A Mindfulness based psychotherapeutic approach helps us to deepen into our rich inner lives, with intentionality, will, nurturance and mystery. It is essential for us to be resourced and ‘full’ enough in life in order to go into these inner places, so that we can allow deeper, structural change to happen. This approach leans on Eastern Buddhist wisdom as well as western psychodynamic (early childhood conditioning) processes, and can be an exciting, freeing way to see ourselves differently than the ‘old’ story of ourselves that we may carry.
Compassion at the Heart of the work:
I deepened into my training through the Karuna Institute in Dartmoor, ‘Karuna’ meaning compassion. This is central to the therapeutic way that I work, because judgement and shame are important to be recognized as internal parts or voices, and often ‘persecutors’. These negative harsh critical feelings, unless ‘caught’, can shut us down and stop us from reaching our inner most parts of vulnerability and potential. Compassion offers a way through this, as we can challenge ourselves instead with more powerful questions that help us to invest in the change we would like to see in both our intrapsychic or internal processes, and our external, environmental or systemic ones. If we are kind to ourselves in the places where we hurt the most, then we can go into those places and explore them, instead of staying on the outside of our wounds.
Relationships Wound so Relationships Heal:
In Karuna Institute it is believed that relationships have wounded us, and can continue to wound us, so it is relationships that can also heal us. In order to heal our deepest emotional wounding, we also need to meet our distress directly, and open ourselves to that pain. A therapeutic relationship can offer compassion, acceptance, safety and inner respect for vulnerability, pain and sensitivity. Feeling trust in the mirroring that can happen in the therapeutic relationship can allow the most painful places to be exposed, or to emerge. This can help a client to retrieve what has been lost from their own childhood trauma, and from the intersectionalities of inter-generational or ancestral trauma, and the collective trauma that we all feel. We may be grieving for ourselves, but also from an unconscious place of oppression, marginalization, or disempowerment.
My first session
This way of working aims to help you have a deeper connection to your inner most parts, by inviting you to notice what is happening right now. There may be memory coming up, or something else may be happening in your emotional body; maybe a feeling, a sensation, or something else coming through. Therapy asks you to deepen into that, and explore it at depth with the therapist bearing witness.
This helps you to stay connected to your inner life, emotionally, while also developing your capacity to witness your inner life. This is known as witness consciousness, so that you can be both in your emotional distress without being overwhelmed by it. This can deepen a sense of individuation and perspective, so that you have more awareness of your experience and can often help us to move through difficulty as we become less emotionally charged by our material. There always seems to be something in there that is asking for our attention, and if we can allow space for that, we can take a further step into our individuating or self-actualising path, which is natural for us.
It is also helpful to bring curiosity, engagement and openness to the therapeutic inquiry, so that we are less ‘formed’ about our self and our life. If we are able to let more ‘vague’ or ‘nebulous’ territory come through, instead of needing things to be clear, then we are able to connect to the heart of the deep mysteries inherent in being alive on a psycho-spiritual journey. If we are able to stay in the unfixed, open places, in the inbetwixt and in between, we are letting go of the obvious layers of personality and persona that we carry. What has been previously hidden can then emerge and allow us to grow down into ourselves.
What I can help with
Abuse, Addictions, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Cultural issues, Depression, Health related issues, Identity issues, Loss, Men's issues, Obsessions, OCD, Personal development, Phobias, Post-traumatic stress, Relationships, Self esteem, Self-harm, Sex-related issues, Sexual identity, Sexuality, Spirituality, Stress, Trauma, Work related issues
Types of therapy
Emotionally focused therapy, Humanistic, Phenomenological
Clients I work with
Adults, Older adults, Trainee
How I deliver therapy
Long-term face-to-face work