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About me and my therapy practice
Counselling and psychotherapy can help you to become more aware of your patterns, defence mechanisms and resistance. This can allow more spaciousness through, for you to be who you are. Coming into relationship with yourself at depth, without judgment but with curiosity, can help you to stay and enquire into your feelings and notice where you might feel stuck and what you might be avoiding.
Change can come if we give ourselves room and space and allow our emotional distress and difficulty to surface, just as it is. The more we can name and be with our difficulties, the more we can move into our awareness of these difficulties. If we can make awareness our ‘home’, so that we are both in the experience and also noticing the experience, the more possibility there is for change to take place. We can increasingly start to give ourselves permission to change. We can upgrade our inner emotional life in a way that works for us in our present life stage.
Therapy can help us to listen to our subtler inner spaces, and voices we may have ‘managed’, shut down or ignored. In noticing the way we field our feelings, instead of feeling our feelings, we can start to let go of our favourite defence mechanisms. Instead, we can choose strategies that feel kinder, adult, and more effective in allowing our authenticity and natural life flow and power through. This can all start to happen when we emotionally put on the brakes, let go of ‘coping’, and give ourselves space to hear ourselves at depth, maybe for the first time in our lives.
We can start to change our lives from the potential of our groundedness, where we allow ourselves to emotionally relax, trust ourselves, and fully breathe out. In turning towards and trusting our inner wisdom, we can amaze ourselves by becoming more embodied, or feel fully present in our bodies, as we notice and start to take care of ourselves in ways that might feel new. While our old coping strategies were brilliant, and were what we needed to survive, we can now start to re-evaluate who we are, and replace worn out habits with strategies that help us and make sense to us.
I work with compassion, and help clients to stay with their ‘felt sense’, which invites you to stay with your deeper thoughts, feelings, sensations and memories, and allow them through. These might feel vague or nebulous at first, and it can be helpful to come into the non-cognitive space and listen to your body’s wisdom. Your felt sense may speak to you from your heart, or from your mid-line, and has a different kind of language from your ‘head’. Dropping down from the head into the felt sense can help us in mysterious ways to touch into emotional pain, distress and difficulties and welcome what is there, without becoming overwhelmed. If we can allow space for our felt sense, which might emerge as a sound, a colour, an image, or a memory, a place, a time, a narrative we hold, a feeling, a sense of what we might be avoiding or where we might be stuck …. then something can start to emerge. We can engage with our emotional process as a way of working through difficulty.
My first session
The first session is really to see if we like each other and if a therapeutic working alliance would feel possible. It is also a time for you to ask any questions you might have for the way that I work, and for you to start telling me about your emotional difficulty or distress, or area that you feel you want to look at, as clear or as unclear as that is for you.
Hopefully, by the end of the session, you will have a sense of the way that I work, and if you feel comfortable with the idea of therapy with me - it is really important that you feel comfortable working with a therapist, because of the inevitable challenges and difficulties that will come up for you as you turn towards your emotional pain.
What I can help with
Abuse, Addictions, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Cultural issues, Depression, Health related issues, Identity issues, Loss, Men's issues, Obsessions, OCD, Personal development, Phobias, Post-traumatic stress, Relationships, Self esteem, Self-harm, Sex-related issues, Sexual identity, Sexuality, Spirituality, Stress, Trauma, Work related issues
Types of therapy
Emotion focused therapy, Humanistic, Phenomenological
Clients I work with
Adults, EAP, Older adults, Trainee
How I deliver therapy
Long-term face-to-face work