Paul Hayward

There are times when we all feel stuck, are not sure what to do or have problems or issues that we really aren't sure how to handle. Or perhaps you want to change, you just don't know how?

Maybe your life has changed: you're now a parent, a divorcee, someone significant from your life has gone, you have a new job or home or you fear losing the one you have.

Maybe you're either not sure who you are, or you don't like who you are. I can help you to make sense of your life, to move on in directions you choose and get more out of it. Working with you and alongside you, we can explore the meanings and values in your life- which ones you need more of and which are perhaps holding you back. You can then take decisions, decide how to move on and, if you like, try out the new ideas and attitudes in the safety of the counselling room before going out into the world.

All this can be as brief, or as long, as you need it to be.

I am an accredited and experienced counsellor who has worked with thousands of clients over a number of years who came with an infinite variety of issues. Together, we can make a difference.

I work in a number of ways depending on what you think you would like to do or look at. 

We can explore themes and patterns in your life, seeing what might be going on for you and what you have been creating so far, looking at your own responsibility in the life you have lived as well as better understanding the impact of others.

The first session is largely devoted to listening: me listening to you and you listening to yourself- hearing yourself, perhaps for the first time, in a new way and discovering things about yourself that you did not or had forgotten. You start to build a new story, a new way of looking at you and your life, not neglecting or denying the old one but embracing it and using it as a resource.