Lesley Wilkes

Lesley Wilkes


Registered Member MBACP (Accredited)

Contact information

Phone number
07551223770

Contact Lesley

Therapist - Petts Wood, Orpington

Petts Wood, Orpington BR5
07551223770
Sessions from £50.00

Features

  • Flexible hours available
  • Concessionary rates

About me and my therapy practice

I am an experienced counsellor who works with a range of emotional difficulties offering both short and longer term counselling.  My counselling practice is based a short walk from Petts Wood station, but given the current lock-down restrictions, I am currently only offering video counselling support. 

Life presents us with challenges everyday which can leave us feeling frustrated, stressed and down, Often it is hard to find the words to express how we are feeling or to know who to speak to about the difficulties we're facing, and this can be an overwhelming and lonely experience.  We can't change what we have done in the past or what has happened to us but we can choose how to handle these challenges and how they will shape us.  Suffering is part of everyday life but each of us have the potential to take control of our own happiness.  If we choose to acknowledge our problems and find the courage to take responsibility for them, it is possible to achieve acceptance and find peace. 

Practice description

I can provide you with a safe and confidential space to discuss whatever you would like at your own pace.  I will work towards an environment of trust where you feel comfortable to express yourself freely and without judgement.  I will be respectful of the difficulties you are facing and I will listen carefully to understand your experience.  With this foundation in place, we will work collaboratively to connect your current feelings to the source of your pain.  We will explore your thoughts to make better sense of your distress and work to goals we will set together.  We will work with the possibility of building on your confidence to enable you to make choices more in tune with how you wish to live your life and support yourself.  

I am trained in/and use Psychodynamic and Person Centred theory in my work.  I have an ongoing awareness of the relevance of the past and in particular childhood experience and how this might be impacting your life in the here and now.   My counselling style places emphasis on the strength of the therapeutic relationship, which I believe is very important, and I use a conversational style which I feel develops a more natural connection.   I am also able to offer interventions using Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), and Transactional Analysis for solution focused goals.  My training in different approaches, allows me to adapt my way of working to suit your individual needs. 

Common themes in my work are: depression and low mood; anxiety and stress; relationship difficulties; childhood difficulties; childhood sexual abuse and neglect;  life stage transitions - challenging identity, confidence, self esteem, social isolation; social media difficulties; trauma; serious illness, recovery and managing chronic pain; grief/loss, bereavement - as a process to acceptance; self harm;  addiction; disordered eating; suicidal thoughts; self care. 

My first session

It is important to find the right counsellor where you feel comfortable and safe to share your concerns and I understand this may be an overwhelming and a difficult step to take.  In our first telephone conversation we can have a brief informal chat which will allow us to touch on the difficulties you are facing.  This will be confidential and we can discuss how I might be able to help you.  If you wish to proceed we can then book a face to face meeting which will take approximately 50 minutes, (currently this will be via video link, as indeed would subsequent sessions due to the current lock-down restrictions).  During this assessment we can talk about your expectations and goals for the work.  I will explain what I can offer and how I see us working together.  You will then have autonomy to decide if you wish to proceed.   

Please give me a call or text me on 07551 223700. If I am unable to take your call please leave your name and contact details together with  a short message, and I will get back to you as soon as I can. Alternatively you can email me at lesleywilkescounselling@btinternet.com. 

Best wishes 

Lesley 

Please note, I am recognised on the following registers:  BUPA, AXA PPPHealthcare. Aviva, Vitality.

What I can help with

Abuse, Addictions, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Cancer, Child related issues, Chronic fatigue syndrome / ME, Cultural issues, Depression, Eating disorders, Health related issues, Identity issues, Infertility, Loss, Men's issues, Obsessions, OCD, Phobias, Post-traumatic stress, Pregnancy related issues, Redundancy, Relationships, Self esteem, Self-harm, Sex-related issues, Sexual identity, Sexuality, Spirituality, Stress, Women's issues, Work related issues

Types of therapy

CBT, Humanistic, Integrative, Person centred, Psychodynamic, Relational, Transactional analysis

Clients I work with

Adults, Older adults, Trainee, Young people

How I deliver therapy

Long-term face-to-face work, Online counselling, Short-term face-to-face work, Time-limited