Neil Bedwell

I currently some availability of Wednesdays/Thursdays and some weekday evenings

We all experience difficult times in our lives, times when we can't make sense and feel stuck.It may be a life event such as bereavement, relationship break up or illness which has left you in need of support, or you may not be able to pinpoint what you feel is wrong. Often we have ways of coping with emotional distress that come from what happened in our childhood, and those ways of coping no longer serve us as adults. Sometimes it may feel like there are different ‘parts’ of ourselves that are in conflict with each other and this can cause us distress. By not rejecting but listening to and accepting those parts, we can change.

My aim is to work with you to uncover ways in which you might be keeping yourself stuck, to find out what might be blocking you from fully becoming who you want to be and supporting you in making different choices in your life. I can help you find compassion and acceptance for the 'parts' of yourself you might dislike, there are no bad parts of you....

I can offer you a space where you will find compassion, openness, empathy and warmth. I know from my own experience of counselling how it has helped me with aspects of my own life I have struggled with. It offered me the time and space with someone who focused on me without judgement and I can provide you with the same experience.

I work with clients to uncover what might be troubling them, as sometimes it might not be obvious what's going wrong for us. Having the space to explore allows us to work together to help you find a way forward. I have particular experience working with men, who are often underrepresented in both sides of the therapeutic relationship and who can often struggle to express emotion.

All the research on the effectiveness of counselling points to the strength of the relationship between you (the client) and the counsellor being the most important part of positive outcomes in therapy. Through this relationship I aim to help you uncover where you might be getting stuck and find a way through the stuckness by working creatively together to help you get to where you want to go.

I am available to work face-to-face from a location in Ashford (Kent) and I can also work both online and the telephone. I offer a free 30 minute telephone or online consultation to see if we are able to work together and talk about how I might be able to support you. Please email or drop me a text to arrange an initial consultation.