Neil Kilburn

Neil Kilburn

Registered Member MBACP

Languages spoken: English

Contact information

Phone number
07856 924 002

Contact Neil

Therapist - Bristol

Bristol BS37
07856 924 002
Sessions from £55.00


  • Flexible hours available
  • Concessionary rates


**Currently providing ONLINE SESSIONS only**

About me and my therapy practice

I’ve worked within the NHS for several years providing psychological support to NHS staff and the general public. I believe every person is entirely unique and, therefore, there is no such thing as a ‘one-size fits all’ approach to well-being. My experience is in the schools of Psychodynamic, Gestalt, Person-Centred and Cognitive-Behavioural approaches and I am a registered member the British Psychological Society and the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy.

I work integratively. This means that instead of remaining within one single approach in all situations with all people, I am able to work flexibly with each person to find ways forward that are specific to them. My approach is ‘Relational’ which understands human beings as 'social animals' and that the quality of our connection to others is central to our well-being. A ‘break' in these connections often forms the core of our concerns or distress and hinders our psychological and emotional well-being.

We can often carry a great deal of shame and fearfully expect all kinds of reactions or judgements from others if we disclose the things we have suffered through or struggled with. Often, there’s an unshakable feeling that ‘there must be something wrong with me’, however, this is an incorrect assumption. This expectation of being negatively judged or rejected can prevent us from seeking help for many months or even years. There may be a fear that we will simply be told to ‘man up’, to ‘sort yourself out’, or to ‘stop being so negative’. These expectations have often originated outside of ourselves; they may have been ‘placed there’ by either the situations we have found ourselves in or, in cases of abuse, by others. Through therapy sessions, we can begin to understand how to provide this support for ourselves. This then enables us to approach our lives, relationships and future from a more balanced and stable position.

My first session

In your first session you will be invited to discuss the main reasons you've come to therapy. We'll chat through in more detail what you would hope to gain from your sessions in order to ensure therapy is the right option for you or, whether there are other support options that may be better placed to help you at present. Assuming that therapy is an appropriate option, we will discuss how the sessions will work and agree the details such as a regular appointment time, and you will be able to ask any questions at all that you may have.

It can take a remarkable amount of strength to make this first step, (this is rarely an ‘easy’ thing to do at first!) and you should congratulate yourself for having come this far already. The fact you are reading this is already testament to your courage and strength.

What I can help with

Abuse, Anger management, Anxiety, Bereavement, Depression, Identity issues, Loss, Men's issues, OCD, Personal development, Phobias, Redundancy, Relationships, Self esteem, Sexual identity, Sexuality, Spirituality, Stress, Trauma, Women's issues, Work related issues

Types of therapy

CBT, Cognitive, Gestalt, Humanistic, Integrative, Person centred, Psychoanalytic, Psychodynamic, Relational

Clients I work with


How I deliver therapy

Long-term face-to-face work, Online counselling, Short-term face-to-face work, Time-limited